What if I don't want to adapt?

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Has anybody ever ignored the NT ways just said no I'm done trying to fake my way through life, I recently did and I showed my true personality ( I'm very blunt, emotionless if you will, and I like to say the truth ), and one of the few questions I was asked not more than a couple hours into it was do you really mean your sorry or are you just saying that because that's what your supposed to do, so I plainly said " I'm just saying it because that's what you say", my mom then said she felt uncomfortable around me "like this". Now Im not mean I just didn't understand what I did wrong so I felt no empathy for my mom after a long argument and tears from my mom, but what if I don't care, I don't comprehend, I mean for the first time my mom didn't understand me, she was totally clueless, and ofcourse she then continued like nothing was wrong. I'm just still in shock and sort of questioning what to do " apologize and say I mean it when i don't " or well I dot know what else.

My point in writing this long paragraph is why do I have to change myself, my actions, when the only people with a problem are all the NTs? I hate to consider my mom with a label but that's just the truth. If someone could explain why they don't understand I would appriciate it.

This drives me nuts as well... all I can tell is they like formality & avoid "hurting others feelings". I generally don't care if I'm blunt, but their is a point that is crossing the line in my book.

Heck yes! I feel this way a lot.

Just do what you want, ignore profound idiots.

We just need to wait until ours is the dominant psychological constitution. Then they'll have to adapt. It will be a wonderful world where the trains run on time and people say what they mean.

You don't have to do anything you don't want to do. It all depends on what you want out of life and your interpersonal relationships.

NTs also don't have to do anything they don't want to do. Including bending to your whims. They may bend a bit because they respect you and choose to put effort into forming and maintiaing a relationship with you, but if you are just going to throw that back in their face by putting in no effort yourself, then don't expect to have many good relationships. Takes 2 to tango.

NTs can't do all the bending while Aspies sit around and insult us for it!

Personally I think we ALL have to bend a certain degree for each other. Love of others implies a degree of surrender. And if I want people to understand me and treat me in a spirit of love that makes allowances for me, I feel I should try to do the same for others, and meet in the middle, so to speak.

It's like the way I see it with languages. I wish everyone spoke more than one language, so that we had an insight into at least one group that is not our own. I think it's a great thing to teach our children. Same thing with neurodiversity.

I feel like this a lot and frequently turn it all off and just won't talk to anyone.

I usually need at least one day a week alone without pretending if I'm to have any hope of successfully interacting at work for another week.

So what happens when you're upset and someone you go to for comfort tells you they really don't care? What if you came to the Haven thread and everyone said, "not my problem."

I just want to do my own thing, and mind my own business.