My semi-makebelieve theory when I was a child and a teenager was that I was a changeling alien who had been brought to Earth as an infant. The humans, because they were all of the same species, had abilities to communicate with each other in ways that I couldn't understand due to my alien nature. Eventually, after years of study and observation, I was able to comprehend some of the humans' behavior, but I was still slow at communicating with them and interpreting their responses, like someone who learns a foreign language after the sensitive period for language acquisition has passed.
Since being diagnosed with Asperger's, I have realized that while I am not a transplanted alien, I do process information differently than non-autistic people do, which means that when I interact with neurotypicals, I seem foreign to them, as they do to me.
When I joined my first Asperger's support group earlier this year, I realized for the first time in my life that there are people in the world to whom I make *immediate* sense, and who make immediate sense to me, without me having to go through an elaborate process of explaining why I operate in the way that I do. In the group, I don't have to waste extra energy maintaining my aspie-to-neurotypical two-way translator, and as such, I am able to engage in these interactions without going into a state of overwhelm. These meetings are the first time I have ever truly enjoyed a group social interaction.
I have come to realize that I am not a lonely alien in a world of humans, but that there are other people who can "grock" me (i.e. understand me), and whom I can "grock" as well.
My $0.02.
~ Caterina
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"I've never been asked to belong. I've never joined anything except the Marvel Comics Club, but that was through the mail and even then they lost my membership."
~ Eleanor, from Starmites