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18 Jun 2010, 11:33 am

It's nice to own the movie now and I can watch it whenever I want. The movie describes my life, and gives me hope when I watch the movie all the way through. It is fascinating to watch the movie with the director commentaries.



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18 Jun 2010, 11:34 am

I'm going to buy that movie, in the near future. :)


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18 Jun 2010, 3:18 pm

i buy it one day



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18 Jun 2010, 3:29 pm

Finally, a movie about an autistic character, that I can relate to. :)


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18 Jun 2010, 3:58 pm

Same here. I want my kids to see it.


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18 Jun 2010, 5:06 pm

I watched this movie two weeks ago, I enjoyed it, but was glad that my AS is not as bad as Adam's. Although I was somewhat annoyed that he seems worse off than I am, yet is more easily able to work than I am.


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19 Jun 2010, 9:43 pm

Anyone want to give a synopsis of the film for those who have not viewed it yet?



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21 Jun 2010, 7:00 am

I got the DVD of that, it's a good film.

For more info, see here: http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1185836/



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21 Jun 2010, 9:52 am

Variant wrote:
I watched this movie two weeks ago, I enjoyed it, but was glad that my AS is not as bad as Adam's. Although I was somewhat annoyed that he seems worse off than I am, yet is more easily able to work than I am.

I suspect it's just that the movie people like to tell us that there's work for anybody who really wants it. :roll:

I saw it a few weeks ago........they didn't seem to explain how he attracted the girl, or what she saw in him. I liked the bit where he ditched her for telling him a white lie, and realised his mistake, but I didn't like the other guy's story when he was trying to convince him to change his mind. In that case the lie was rather more sinister, yet he used it as a fair analogy. It would have scared me off even more.

The bit where she's going to leave him for a few years made me think a bit. I seem to remember that in "Love Story" the girl's father was pushing hard for her to do the same thing, but the couple decided to stay together. Were they wrong? I guess Hollywood's code of romance can't be expected to work. But I do suspect that a separation like that could lead to the end of some couples, and maybe some of them are better off keeping in touch better. Wouldn't be easy for Adam to let his only love go unwatched into the lion's den, would it? I think the film could have gone into the whole issue in more depth. I get her message, that if he's so dependent that he can't cope with the estrangement, then he's not going to make it longterm either. I'll have to watch it again and see whether she explained that clearly enough.



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21 Jun 2010, 5:01 pm

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I watched this movie two weeks ago, I enjoyed it, but was glad that my AS is not as bad as Adam's. Although I was somewhat annoyed that he seems worse off than I am, yet is more easily able to work than I am.

I suspect it's just that the movie people like to tell us that there's work for anybody who really wants it. :roll:

I saw it a few weeks ago........they didn't seem to explain how he attracted the girl, or what she saw in him. I liked the bit where he ditched her for telling him a white lie, and realised his mistake, but I didn't like the other guy's story when he was trying to convince him to change his mind. In that case the lie was rather more sinister, yet he used it as a fair analogy. It would have scared me off even more.

The bit where she's going to leave him for a few years made me think a bit. I seem to remember that in "Love Story" the girl's father was pushing hard for her to do the same thing, but the couple decided to stay together. Were they wrong? I guess Hollywood's code of romance can't be expected to work. But I do suspect that a separation like that could lead to the end of some couples, and maybe some of them are better off keeping in touch better. Wouldn't be easy for Adam to let his only love go unwatched into the lion's den, would it? I think the film could have gone into the whole issue in more depth. I get her message, that if he's so dependent that he can't cope with the estrangement, then he's not going to make it longterm either. I'll have to watch it again and see whether she explained that clearly enough.


Well besides them, Hollywood, wanting to show that there is work for anyone who wants it, which is clearly not the case, they also couldn't very well have shown him as unemployed AND single at the end of the film, even though that is often the case in the real world.

Making him single at the end was bad enough, but if he had been unemployed too then the message of the movie would have been "he's disabled so he can't do anything."

As for why the girl was attracted to him, it seemed to me like she was using him for a rebound. She had just broken up with someone and was feeling lonely and unhappy. Then along came Adam who tried to be nice to her and cheer her up. So, she hooked up with him for a while, and then when she couldn't tolerate his AS traits any longer she kicked him to the curb.

I'd say they portrayed that realistically enough, depressing as it might be. They tried to dress up her actions with some niceness and circumstance, but ultimately that is what she did.


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22 Jun 2010, 5:16 am

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Well besides them, Hollywood, wanting to show that there is work for anyone who wants it, which is clearly not the case, they also couldn't very well have shown him as unemployed AND single at the end of the film, even though that is often the case in the real world.

Making him single at the end was bad enough, but if he had been unemployed too then the message of the movie would have been "he's disabled so he can't do anything."

As for why the girl was attracted to him, it seemed to me like she was using him for a rebound. She had just broken up with someone and was feeling lonely and unhappy. Then along came Adam who tried to be nice to her and cheer her up. So, she hooked up with him for a while, and then when she couldn't tolerate his AS traits any longer she kicked him to the curb.

I'd say they portrayed that realistically enough, depressing as it might be. They tried to dress up her actions with some niceness and circumstance, but ultimately that is what she did.


I thought the ending was more open than that, I thought the idea was that they might keep in touch.......though the prospect of an Aspie somehow competing at a distance with a college load of hot NT males who have all the time in the world to muscle in on the act, doesn't fill me with hope. Especially at their age when libido runs so high. :(



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22 Jun 2010, 3:28 pm

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Well besides them, Hollywood, wanting to show that there is work for anyone who wants it, which is clearly not the case, they also couldn't very well have shown him as unemployed AND single at the end of the film, even though that is often the case in the real world.

Making him single at the end was bad enough, but if he had been unemployed too then the message of the movie would have been "he's disabled so he can't do anything."

As for why the girl was attracted to him, it seemed to me like she was using him for a rebound. She had just broken up with someone and was feeling lonely and unhappy. Then along came Adam who tried to be nice to her and cheer her up. So, she hooked up with him for a while, and then when she couldn't tolerate his AS traits any longer she kicked him to the curb.

I'd say they portrayed that realistically enough, depressing as it might be. They tried to dress up her actions with some niceness and circumstance, but ultimately that is what she did.


I thought the ending was more open than that, I thought the idea was that they might keep in touch.......though the prospect of an Aspie somehow competing at a distance with a college load of hot NT males who have all the time in the world to muscle in on the act, doesn't fill me with hope. Especially at their age when libido runs so high. :(


Yeah, they tried to give a little tinge of hope as far as a relationship was concerned for Adam at the end of the movie. They had the book and note from Beth and the other girl he worked with who he helped carry stuff.

As for a person with AS having a long distance relationship, I actually had a long distance relationship for a long while, bout a year and a half, with my fiancee who I am marrying later this year. We met online and our 2 year anniversary is coming up in August.


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22 Jun 2010, 5:57 pm

Variant wrote:
As for why the girl was attracted to him, it seemed to me like she was using him for a rebound. She had just broken up with someone and was feeling lonely and unhappy. Then along came Adam who tried to be nice to her and cheer her up. So, she hooked up with him for a while, and then when she couldn't tolerate his AS traits any longer she kicked him to the curb.


Is that why she did it? Or is there another reason why she ditched him? It seemed to me as though her father was the more prejudice one and she initially went against him when he asked her to break up with Adam. I initially couldn't understand why she broke up with him at the end but it seems as there is an implication that got back together with her sending that book.



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22 Jun 2010, 6:02 pm

Jono wrote:
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As for why the girl was attracted to him, it seemed to me like she was using him for a rebound. She had just broken up with someone and was feeling lonely and unhappy. Then along came Adam who tried to be nice to her and cheer her up. So, she hooked up with him for a while, and then when she couldn't tolerate his AS traits any longer she kicked him to the curb.


Is that why she did it? Or is there another reason why she ditched him? It seemed to me as though her father was the more prejudice one and she initially went against him when he asked her to break up with Adam. I initially couldn't understand why she broke up with him at the end but it seems as there is an implication that got back together with her sending that book.


She dumped him because of his AS, that is perfectly clear. She didn't want to be as prejudiced as her father was, but ultimately she still decided to not be with Adam due to the AS.

For two reasons, firstly she couldn't take his general behavior, like how he had the meltdown due to her lying to him. Secondly, she didn't want to be his "caretaker," when he told her that he needed her to be with him to help him get along with the rest of the world. He also said he loved her, but that wasn't good enough for her apparently.

And the book at the end is ambiguous at best. She could've just been showing him that the idea he'd given her had come to fruition and fulfilled her dream of writing a children's book, as a way of saying "thanks for the inspiration." Or she could've been using it as a means of reestablishing contact, who can say really.


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22 Jun 2010, 9:41 pm

I think it was a great movie, but the thing I didn't like about it was that Adam is not very high functioning... at times he appears quite disabled. I've argued that if his traits were milder, then viewers may not have fully understood it, but still, my friends who have see it, say,"That's nothing like you, Steve." So, it works as entertainment, but not much as education.


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22 Jun 2010, 9:51 pm

I loved it too! I watched it with my girlfriend. We're both glad that I'm not nearly as bad as Adam. I just don't like squishy foods. lol