have you ever run into one of your old bullies?

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I was one of bulk food buyer's club stores when some guy was yelling my name and my brother's names trying to get our attention. It was some guy who seemed to remember my name but I could not for the life of me recognize his face. He started mentioning that we went to high school together and were in every gym class together from 7th grade to 12th grade. Then it came back to me like a bolt of lightning. He spent most of our shared school experience making my life a living hell in gym class and was the reason I had such a low gym grade because I would sit out so I would be near the gym teacher where he was afraid to say anything. This douche bag wanted to reminice about old times with me I told him if it was not for him my four year grade average would have been 90% and not 85%. I told him I am not his friend and if he ever aproaches me again he better be prepared to fight then I walked away. My brother was laughing his butt off when he looked around the corner and he was talking to his wife. My brother said he was very animated when he was talking to his wife.

I ran into a girl who verbally and physically abused me back in high school. For some reason, she looked totally frightened when she saw me I still don't know why she was so scared, but that was entertaining!! !

A couple of people who weren't at all nice to me in high school actually messaged me on Facebook to say sorry for being mean to me all those years ago. I told them it was just water under the bridge. I don't hold a grudge against them; nothing either of them did was really damaging, and I respect them a lot that they were willing to apologize. I've changed a lot since then, and so have they. There's only a couple of people who I would never want to deal with again at all, primarily because they were total creeps.

I would love to run into the bully who threatened to kill me and tried twice. I have no idea what I would do with him. It's not even worth planning, it ain't gonna happen. I don't even know his name.

bullies never grow up. i ran into a few, decades after my school years, and while they didn't overtly resume their bullying tactics, neither did they show any willingness to be civil with me. IOW they were brashly curt. they had GOP stickers on their cars also, to a person. figures.

LOL re GOP stickers, you pink commie you.

Did you say that to him in front of his wife?? XD Wow, I bet that left him with some explaining to do.
I met one girl who said she was sorry she was so mean to me in school. But honestly they all sort of blended together for the first 6 or so grades of my school life so I wouldn't have remembered if she was a nice one or a mean one. (And a lot of them were mean sometimes and nice other times anyway.)
I did have one actual friend though, who I didn't have school with for a couple years, and when we had school together again she would wave to me and stuff but I would never realize who she was until she had passed me, so I never reacted in time, so she stopped waving. ;_; I'm a little sad about that one.

edit: yooouu and your tricky title change making my post look off topic.

I ran into my 4th grade bully (age 10) when I was 20.

He was just horrible to me all the way through 4th grade. In the Fall he pushed me into piles of leaves and rubbed leaves in my face. In the Winter he pushed me into piles of snow and rubbed snow into my face. He also threw snowballs at me if he was too far away to push. In February he gave me an "I HATE You!!" valentine at the class Valentine's party. In the Spring, he pushed me into mud puddles and rubbed mud into my face. In the Summer, school was out and he didn't live near me so I was free of him there. But I dreaded the return of Fall and being in 5th grade with him. But he went to a different school! Wahoo!


Then, when I was 20 and going to a party in college, I saw him at the same party. I tried to leave really fast. I didn't want to know what the adult version of his bullying would be. He ran after me and grabbed my arm. I tried to get away from him but he held on and said "Wait, wait. I have to talk to you. I have to apologize."

He explained that the year of bullying was because he had a crush on me. He would have gotten grief from his friends and bullied himself if he let it show so he did an extreme turnaround and was incredibly vicious to me to prove to his friends that he didn't have a crush just in case they started to supsect. All of the rubbing leaves, snow and mud in my face was an excuse to touch my face so he could do that with nobody suspecting. Jesus!! ! Ten year old boys are lunatics. But at least he grew into somebody who had a more appropriate way of showing affection. At any rate, his girlfriend was with him and she looked a little annoyed by this whole conversation. I assume that his apology to me meant that he no longer showed attraction with violence. I sure hope so for her sake. Some men never grow out of that and they beome extremely dangerous to any woman who is attractive to them.

Hi Janissy,

Wow! Your former bully apologized for his bad behavior. That's awesome! His explanation puts quite a different spin on why he was mean to you.


I only met up with one bully once. I happened to stop by a gas station with a companion & he was a mechanic there. We wer both in our early 20s, so had been out of HS for maybe 5 years at the most. He never came out & apologized for his behavior to me, but he did say hi. I made the mistake of saying that he hadn't changed ( I only meant that he still looked much like he had in school). Probably insulted him, because his response was that he had changed. I haven't attended any of my HS reunions. I only got invited to the last one (30 years now) anyway. Can't really say that I want to attend. I drink socially sometimes, but I can only tolerate maybe 2 drinks at the most, & from what I've heard from other attenders, most of the ones who do show up drink until they're totally schnockered. I'm just not that comfortable being around people who have to be drunk to do anything.

I have never ran into my old bullies yet. If I do, I will be friendly with them hoping they have grown up and aren't those meanies anymore. And most people don't even remember picking on you anyway. I wonder how many of my old bullies actually remember picking on me? I know one of my old friends had no memory of it. She had singled me out in 5th grade and ran away from me and then in 6th grade she totally ignored me and hung out with other kids instead while in the summer we had hung out together. She couldn't even remember when was the last time we saw each other so she probably doesn't remember the rest.

I've ran into one of my old bullies, when I was about 21. It turns out, that he grew up to be a really nice man.

Ran into two of them, both apologized.

One said she was 'following the crowd' because she 'didn't want them to come after her'. Which was probably true.

The other said that she'd always believed in school that she was one of the nicer girls and that others did most of the bullying but realised years later that she was actually one of the ring leaders. (This latter girl is partly responsible for my not getting help whilst being sexually abused in school as she outright lied about things that she'd witnessed. I didn't bring that up with her, she's obviously STILL not being honest with herself.)

One of the teachers in my school who knew about the abuse and actively covered it up (because the abuser was rich and a member of the school board) tried to apologize to me but I refused to speak with her. Some things, you can't apologize for imo, and letting a child be raped is one.

There are a couple of others that I truly hope that I never meet because I doubt that I could control my hostility enough to even walk away.

I always ended up being like half friends with my bullies for some reason. I probably didn't react to it like others they bullied because I was so preoccupied with my own world that I hardly even cared what they did to me. I mean, I would be upset initially but even hours later, I would be carrying on like nothing happened, completely lost thinking about whatever happened to interest me. I would get more upset by direct questions from teachers than the bullying. The bullies were predictable, as I already knew what they would do, however, the teachers when they would get mad with me, I had not even the slightest idea of what they would do, so they were even more intimidating.

I ended up somewhat friendly with the bullies I went to school with, and a good number of them invited me to be friends on facebook. Never had a run-in with one that wasn't friendly. And the funny part about it is, I never did recognize it as bullying until I was asked about my school life by an OT last year where she pointed it out to me that what they were doing was the same thing I saw them doing to others. Funny how mind-blindness works. If I had understood this back then, I probably would have been offended by the bullying and never become friendly with them.

Yeah but I wasn't driving very fast, so they're okay.

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