Staying indoors all the time is not good for you.

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How many of you hate socialising and facing people so much you just wanna stay indoors all the time?

Well i do.

I never used to leave the house, unless it was just to the garden or garage.

Ive been working for over a month now, i hate all the NT activity but ive learned to avoid it as much as i can and got used to workig life.

But anyway, i really look forward to the weekends where i can just relax and stay away from anything else, basically just get left alone.

Now its Easter weekend, i have 4 days off instead of the usual 2. I havent left the house since i came back from work on Thursday. And because im not really used to this routine, i seem to have this really really deep anxiety and depressive feeling inside of me about going back to work tomorrow. Yes i dont really enjoy working but as i said i got used to it. But i think this feeling is due to me being stuck indoors for too long. I remember before i got the job and i started to go to interviews, this feeling was even worse.

My advice... try and get out as much as possible, you dont have to talk to or see anyone, just take a walk, get some fresh air and view the outside world.

I make a point of getting out of the house, at least three times a week. My town isn't as lively as I would like it to be. Even though Langley, British Columbia is actually a city, I think it's more of a town, because I feel like I'm in the Country. I guess that I was overly spoilt by my trip to Victoria, two years ago. None the less, I get out to connect with Reality and also to go into the shops to see how good, Langley can be to me. I've found lots of interesting treasures, just by getting out.

I will go out doors when the sun agrees to not be so bright.

I didn't leave the house much as a child...partially because of my anxiety, and partially because I have so little pigment in my skin and eyes that I sunburn like crazy in no time flat.

Exploring nature is a whole lotta fun and a great way to get out of the house. Or at least I think so.

Also the sports which are not team sports can be appealing to aspies. These non-team sports can also be a whole lotta fun and again a great way to get out.

I usually go out because I have to. I seldom ever go out for fun.

Also, i'd prefer if the equator would permenantly move further north for my sake.

staying indoors all the time is only bad if I close the doors and shut the windows (no ventilation) because of all the wierd particles I'm inhaling. I was congested all of the last summer for that reason

I actually prefer to be outside, though its getting harder to find places you can really be alone
outside,althoughwhen you think about it ,the majority of NTs are OK,only a few are really
intolerant.

Real joy is getting into the woods deep enough not to see anyone for a few hours, then sitting quietly til
the animals get used to your presence and start showing themselves.

Once or twice though, I've let out a real yell, cause I realized I was in a place I could.Happy upcoming
earth day.

i have a job in a shop.. i like try try and communicate but im not very good at it however hard i try. i can say hi and how much money they owe me and bye. but im no good at judgin how old people are so i have to ask alot of people for id and they get annoyed with me cos some say they are over 25.

i went out to a pub with colleagues of my last job it was an organised thing i was not invited for my person - because i worked there. i was so bored. everyone was sat smoking and drinking beers,and chatting and i was sat in the corner with my diet coke twiddling my thumbs . just didnt know what to do and i didnt like the atmosphere. i switched off from them and just day dreamed till closing time then i walked home.
i use the internet as a means to try and talk to people.
im 21 and i get on well with children under 10. i have the same mind frame now as i did when i was 10 and younger so i think that is why.
my tv choices if i ever watch it is cartoons pokemon tom and jerry and stuart little . the only 'adult' films i enjoy to watch are the james bond movies. not sue but i think it is because there is more action and less need to understand it. can just sit and watch and not have to try and pick it apart.
i did watch moulin rouge a while bak but i found it completley boring.

i was diagnosed aspergers 4 days ago, after previous visual testing of my ability to recognise emotions and facial expressions and ability to remember long numbers and codes and problem solving.
apparently i scored within top 5% of the UK for my problem solving and remembering of numbers but a very very low score for face expressions. i really tried to work them out but tere just wasnt anything there to start off with. all the faces looked the same to me or they didnt tell me a thing.

he asked me what music i liked and disliked.. i didnt understand why that had anything to do with aspergers but i told him i dont like rap or country or blues and jazz. but that i like everything with an even beat and with major chords and harmonies. he told me that he expected me to say exactly that... i never realised that even my musictaste fell in line with aspergers!

I agree. Golf is such a sport. No one but you and nature, one on one.

Very humbling, frustrating game at times, but rewarding.

I do not think that music taste has anything to do with having AS. I assume that some of your everyday traits may have led this person to tell you that "he expected you to say exactly that." Some people here listen to industrial music, for example, which has no even beat for the most part. Others listen to a variety of forms of pop music, much of which does not have an even beat. I associate even beat with minimalist or tribalist musical forms, though I'm not sure if that's how you see what an "even beat" refers to.

- Ray M -

I sort of spend lots of time by myself or alone, and I also like to use the Internet, like this forum, to communicate and so forth. Although, I'm in the process of finding an actual AS support group near home.

I can't say that I enjoy being completely alone, however. I do go into urban areas once in a while, and I have no problems with entering a restaurant or shopping mall. I'm not sort of agoraphobic, though I hardly ever socialize with anyone in public. In fact, I tend to see people as obstacles in a maze of trying to find a route to get to where I need to go. I don't like crowds, but I don't necessarily always avoid them.

I can hold conversations and don't have the excessive communication problems that some on this forum tend to have. I don't express much emotion, though, which some people may find somewhat odd.

When I was at work this past year, I avoided most of the social outings. There was one that I did go to, which was sort of a pizza night, but I sort of like food, so that doesn't bother me. I sat with others and so forth, talking about whatever. I am not into socializing in terms of playing games and things of that nature. I find myself getting bored real easily. It becomes easier if I get to know the people and there is a level of mutual attraction, but I am much too heavily involved in my own interests, that I tend not to want to be bothered by other things.

I handle avoiding many social situations by just stipulating that I have some responsibilities at home that I have to take care of, e.g. my mother is a diabetic and needs insulin (which she is).

- Ray M -