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24 Jun 2010, 5:11 pm

I'm there. I'm sitting here thinking of hiring a professional organizer and I'm not sure I can afford it. Has anyone here done this? Trying to get myself organized would be a lot easier if I could unload some of this junk and clutter but I am virtually paralyzed when I try to do it. It seems so simple, except that I can't. I think I've come to the point where I realize that I really cannot do this by myself. My Inattentive ADD has ruled my life and I'm tired of it!



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24 Jun 2010, 5:31 pm

I'm impressed by your resolve :wink: I think it is a worthwhile investment to have an emotionally detached outsider show you that you can live without certain things.
I am a hoarder by nature :lol: I have a terrible weakness for sparkly wrapping paper :oops:
My mom came in and threw away my collection a while ago. I was furious for about 2 hours and then realized that I was okay. Granted, if she had discarded something with more substance than paper, I would have flipped and thrown the holy mother of all tantrums. (but hopefully that was relevant and moderately helpful :lol: )


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24 Jun 2010, 5:36 pm

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I'm impressed by your resolve :wink: I think it is a worthwhile investment to have an emotionally detached outsider show you that you can live without certain things.
I am a hoarder by nature :lol: I have a terrible weakness for sparkly wrapping paper :oops:
My mom came in and threw away my collection a while ago. I was furious for about 2 hours and then realized that I was okay. Granted, if she had discarded something with more substance than paper, I would have flipped and thrown the holy mother of all tantrums. (but hopefully that was relevant and moderately helpful :lol: )

There's plenty of stuff that I know is junk and I don't particularly want to keep. My biggest problem is executive functioning. Whenever I start I get overloaded then I get sleepy. There are things I have an unnatural attachment to, but my main problem is I get overwhelmed with too much visual detail. I need to simplify. I looked up a few local sites and they specifically mentioned ADHD, so I guess they would be prepared for someone like me.



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24 Jun 2010, 5:53 pm

Aimless wrote:
I'm there. I'm sitting here thinking of hiring a professional organizer and I'm not sure I can afford it. Has anyone here done this? Trying to get myself organized would be a lot easier if I could unload some of this junk and clutter but I am virtually paralyzed when I try to do it. It seems so simple, except that I can't. I think I've come to the point where I realize that I really cannot do this by myself. My Inattentive ADD has ruled my life and I'm tired of it!


You might be better off with a regular cleaning person who can work on the organizational stuff and help you maintain it. A professional organizer is a big expense but if you can't maintain what they set up it might not last. A *really* good one will set things up so that it's very easy to maintain, but depending on exactly how bad your Inattentive ADD is you might be able to mess it right back up.

I hope that helps. I know you don't have a lot of money so you need whatever you pay for to work really well because you probably can't afford a redo.



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24 Jun 2010, 6:02 pm

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Aimless wrote:
I'm there. I'm sitting here thinking of hiring a professional organizer and I'm not sure I can afford it. Has anyone here done this? Trying to get myself organized would be a lot easier if I could unload some of this junk and clutter but I am virtually paralyzed when I try to do it. It seems so simple, except that I can't. I think I've come to the point where I realize that I really cannot do this by myself. My Inattentive ADD has ruled my life and I'm tired of it!


You might be better off with a regular cleaning person who can work on the organizational stuff and help you maintain it. A professional organizer is a big expense but if you can't maintain what they set up it might not last. A *really* good one will set things up so that it's very easy to maintain, but depending on exactly how bad your Inattentive ADD is you might be able to mess it right back up.

I hope that helps. I know you don't have a lot of money so you need whatever you pay for to work really well because you probably can't afford a redo.


You know what would really help is just someone to carry the damned boxes downstairs (3 flights) and drive them away. I may even be able to organize myself if I didn't have so much crap.



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24 Jun 2010, 6:47 pm

I finally talked a woman at work into coming to my house this weekend to help me clean. It took a few months and the results of that visit should be interesting.


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24 Jun 2010, 7:16 pm

gawd you should see my room right now. I dont like throwing things away cos i get worried that i might need them at some point, even daft stuff like ribbon from a present (what if i need to make something pretty someday?!) or a hideous ill-fitting top that someone bought me (what if i get fat and neon polkadots come into fashion?!) lol you get the idea. And i have a thing about keeping the boxes that electrical things came in. incase something goes wrong with them or i decide to sell them one day. this never happens but it's all about the what-ifs. I try to be ruthless and throw lots of stuff out but have to do it on the right day or i end up doing nothing more than rearranging things and nothing goes. Plus i get sentimental about objects so easily!

Maybe instead of getting a professional get a relative/friend to help you for free or a small amount?

btw i used to be called aimless on another forum and keep thinking you're me:S



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24 Jun 2010, 7:28 pm

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gawd you should see my room right now. I dont like throwing things away cos i get worried that i might need them at some point, even daft stuff like ribbon from a present (what if i need to make something pretty someday?!) or a hideous ill-fitting top that someone bought me (what if i get fat and neon polkadots come into fashion?!) lol you get the idea. And i have a thing about keeping the boxes that electrical things came in. incase something goes wrong with them or i decide to sell them one day. this never happens but it's all about the what-ifs. I try to be ruthless and throw lots of stuff out but have to do it on the right day or i end up doing nothing more than rearranging things and nothing goes. Plus i get sentimental about objects so easily!

Maybe instead of getting a professional get a relative/friend to help you for free or a small amount?

btw i used to be called aimless on another forum and keep thinking you're me:S


Not only is one room completely full of stuff, but my late step father's woodshop is 1/4 full of my stuff. Stuff I haven't needed in 4 or 5 years. It's partly a matter of letting stuff go but mostly at this point it's just that I get overwhelmed when I try. Is your name Melissa like mine? Aimless is an anagram (plus a descriptive term).I said stuff 4 times.heh.



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24 Jun 2010, 7:41 pm

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Not only is one room completely full of stuff, but my late step father's woodshop is 1/4 full of my stuff. Stuff I haven't needed in 4 or 5 years. It's partly a matter of letting stuff go but mostly at this point it's just that I get overwhelmed when I try. Is your name Melissa like mine? Aimless is an anagram (plus a descriptive term).I said stuff 4 times.heh.


i only have one room to my name but i'm sure i'd soon fill others up if i had the facilities:/
I don't even know where to start and it's abit daunting so tend to just leave it. Need to psyche myself up and tackle it soon.
lol well actually my name's amy and i used the name AiMlesslY. plus it fitted well.
i notice when i use a word several times too. and usually can't resist going back to change it. was a pain in the butt when it came to editing essays



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24 Jun 2010, 8:49 pm

OP, I've been facing a similar demon. It's a huge psychological battle that makes me start fretting to no end. My mom came to help me but somehow just slowed me down - but then she took tons and tons fo stuff with her and was very sympathetic.

I'm still working on it, but I will win if I have to drag it all outside and set fire to it. Good luck, you have my sympathies.



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24 Jun 2010, 8:58 pm

Are you near me? I loveeeeee to organize stuff! :D .....other people's stuff anyway. LOL



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24 Jun 2010, 9:24 pm

My mother has ADD and struggles with organization. She has asked for help from neater friends, which has worked very well.



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24 Jun 2010, 9:39 pm

Try to approach it little by little-that's what I do and it helps so you don't become overwhelmed. So, for instance, this weekend choose 1 drawer to completely clean out. My rule is to get rid of anything I haven't looked at or used in over a year (unless I absolutely can't live with out it-in that case a find a "place" for it to live). After you complete the one drawer you will have enthusiasm about the job completed and next week can tackle a whole closet and so on.
I constantly do this.



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25 Jun 2010, 3:13 am

Organizers suck. One tried to tell my mother to sell the grand piano to free up space. Apparently, she didn't even consider that I'm using that.

Besides, seconding what's been said, I've repeatedly had my living space cleaned up by well-meaning people who think they can help. It only takes a couple of weeks and everything's back how it was. A one-time thing will not help.


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25 Jun 2010, 3:17 am

I have an idea how you feel. Out here there is no rubbish collection (in the country) and I am not used to it, so I feel sort of paralysed about the rubbish. At my parents house there was a paper bin, recycling, and rubbish, and here there is the paper and recycling, compost, but no rubbish collection. I dont know what to do with plastic wrappers and it sort of paralysed me for a long time, I have only started to gather stuff up into bags... :oops:


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25 Jun 2010, 3:20 am

I either get overwhelmed very quickly by the sheer amount of stuff I need to organise, or get stuck because I have to categorise things so that I know where to put them, but then I run into things that can be placed in multiple categories, or alternatively, I can't categorise.

In the end, I find myself with a large pile of stuff that gets jammed back into the cupboards from whence it came until the next time I try to sort it all out.

It's made worse by my habit of hanging onto things because I, or someone else, might be able to use them.

I finally threw out a shelf full of instruction manuals for *OLD* software a few weeks ago, plus the majority of my bible college course notes. Which I hadn't read or needed since I was doing the course - nearly a decade ago. Some of the notes in that box were from a course I did... 22 years ago.