Should I keep my mouth shut?

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I'm itching to tell my friend my opinion of her boyfriend but since it's nothing serious and it's just my view of seeing his FB messages mainly and such I should probably keep my mouth shut right? I'd hate to ruin pretty much the only friendship I have. I told my sister her/husband shouldn't argue so much and she snapped at me. Mom/me chat about things dad says etc. I overall think pet names are stupid and silly and once again hate the whole "my woman" comments. Also she got in an arugment with someone and it made her put on FB worst day ever ever ever. My TRUE honest opinion is IF it was her boyfriend the argument happen too then the relationship will not last (not sure if it was just a friend/BF) I guess just keep my opinions to myself right? I'm just ITCHING to say my views!! !! but also don't want to upset her!! ! I asked why she was upset on chat and she said she didn't want to sound mean but some things she wants to keep to herself so I feel DAMN why did I bother wanting to help you. I shouldn't feel this way. but I do. Once again keep my mouth shut about my view on her Boyfriend right?

Thanks.

yes, yes you should

Keep your opinion to yourself b/c its NOYB & its not an emergency scenario... their are situations where friends need to speak up but this is definitely not one of them.

no no you shouldn't

Say your views about him here (as you just did)- because here there are no consequences to saying them.

But to her? There will be consequences. And those consequences won't be that she thanks you and breaks up with him.

It will cause a rift in your relationship with her, even if your views are accurate.


Say nothing. If she eventually does break up with him, she will come to you for support and then you can say "I never liked him anyway".

Zelda, I'm not trying to be rude, but isn't this the 4th thread you've made on this topic?

People's answers aren't going to change. No, you should not say anything!

Is there some reason you don't like her bf? Is he rude to her or you? If that's the case, you can tell her you don't like him because of __________________________________, and if you are tactful and tell her you mean no disrespect, she shouldn't get angry at you. You should be honest about it, because if you don't like him, chances are they can tell something is up.

Whats the opinion of the boyfriend?
I couldn't make much sense of it

I just sent the boyfriend a FB message and asked why he uses the term "my woman" to get his view on it. Ya the whole "stay out of it" thing heard it from mom too. But I wanted to speak up and speak out! We'll see what he says if he tales his girlfriend (my friend) and there's a falling out then IMO she must not be a good friend. We'll see how it goes might be nothing that happens.

To be fair, most people don't find the term "my woman" offensive.... I can see the out come of this. They will think it's a bizzare thing to get worked up about and ask you not to comment on things like that again

Hopefully she's not mad about me making an comment on it.

True. Hopefully him/her don't get mad and she just thinks I'm weird. She knows I'm Aspie so hopefully she understands I have my views and such. I was just voicing an opinion which I probably shouldn't have but I feel I had too. We'll see what happens.