Getting past the guilt of always doing or saying wrong thing

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I have terrible trouble with carrying around massive amounts of guilt from doing or saying the wrong thing to someone at the worst time and making that person angry or upset with me. I feel sad, and I get angry with myself. At times I have considered self denial or harming to "make myself learn what to say" or "stop doing the wrong thing" but logically I know that won't happen and that more realistically, all I need to do is learn a few key sentences and say those.

I can remember many times where someone has been upset because they have lost a loved one, and I have not known what to say and therefore have made the situation worse. Or, someone I know is going through a stressful situation and all I do is offer information like a walking encyclopedia rather than just letting the person vent. I have another post about that on here somewhere.

The wishing I could turn back time and say the right thing is so very strong. I feel like I have hurt people very much by not being there for them at times when I really should have been

When I do it I just let the person yell at me and get it over with then apologize for pissing them off even if I do not know. But I never feel bad about it.

Try this website to help with those emotions.... http://anyfutureyouwant.com/

The guy who created the website has Asperger's Syndrome or some other ASD.