Female aspies what were teenage years like for you

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I know growing up isn't easy for anyone but I had a really hard time with eating disorders / school / puberty / relationships... be interested to know what other's went through

Mine were boring. I hid in the library.

I was depressed, had an eating disorder and thought of myself as extremely stupid, even though I have a high IQ. Never understood that Bruce Springsteen song "Glory Days" because they sure weren't.

I was very much a child until I was probably 13 or 14, when major depression and anorexia hit. The next 6-8 years were terrible, but I've come through the other side of it.

Mine sucked - depression, eating disorder, trying to be "normal," failing at being "normal," more depression. So glad those years are over.

have the exact same thought any time i hear that song

My special interest went from horses to alternative music and I became fixated on that. My ability to cope with peers at school decreased, while my desire to not go, opting to stay home increased. Instead of jr high, we had mid high and those were the worst years of my life, 7th and 8th grades. 9th and 10th weren't that great, either. 10th and 11th were a little better. By 12th, I was out of there. School was one place I had no interest in being.
As a teenager, I didn't want to be friends with anyone I went to school with and was somewhat phobic about people in my town. I went on to find new friends from other schools, but these relationships weren't lasting.
I overdosed on alcohol at 16 and had to go to the ER.
I managed to befriend a couple of kids I went to high school with (we all three got our GEDs) and became good friends with one of them while losing touch with the other.
I started going to clubs, had fun at these. I went to a lot of concerts.
I went to college after getting my GED.
I also had one other friend who I spent hours and hours talking to on the phone. I was becoming reliant on the phone at this point and used it as a crutch, prefering to talk on it rather than go and be with people.

I had some friends for a brief period in Jr. High and then spent the rest of the time alone in my room.

I did not drink or do drugs or have an eating disorder. My social life was very sparse and most of my socialization was not done in person.

I was not in very good health at the time.

If I died the only people who would have noticed was my immediate family, and perhaps some extended family, and my cats and dog.

My teenage years are not like most teenager's lifes are supposed to go, that's for sure.

Well, I know my teenage years were not what many people would have. I was homeschooled, and disliked doing anything out of the ordinary. I did not drink, do drugs, want to have a social life, or even argue much with my mom or dad.
I felt like a younger kid much of the time. I didn't start feeling like a teen until I started driving, and even then it didn't seem right...
I did not care about boys, and still don't much, but yeah, I do wish that I might find a significant other who understands me. I'm soon not going to be a teenager and that is kinda scary and confusing.

A lot of girl aspies didnt seem to bother with boys. I used to go out and get drunk, when I had someone to go out with, i didn't always have a friend, then i'd throw myself at boys. now i'm the opposite dont bother with relationships.

Those were the worse years of my life. I didn't like the time, in which I was in High School. The Late 80s and Early 90s never really did agree, with me. It was very hard for me to tell which of my peers were true friends, and which ones weren't, so I just didn't bother with them. I remember bringing home a book, on 60s rock. I remember reading a chapter titled, "The Beatles and The British Invasion." I became very interested in that era and genre of music. That became my escape, from the modern world. The more people change, the more they stay the same.

still Hell.

I wasn't teased as much in middle school as I was in high school.. and I just wanted to hide away in my corner. They just kept drawing unwanted attention to me. Boys scared me. Flirting felt threatening. I don't know why. I didn't have any friends and sat by myself at lunch all through high school.

The hours seemed so long in HS. I longed to be home. I continually clock-watched and wished I could come down with an illness (which I faked on occasion.) Then, there was the insanity of the Fri afternoon pep rally. How stupid! All that extreme noise and watching cutesy girls doing gymnastics and the band blowing my ears off and people shaking and pounding the bleachers. I would dread that.

I didn't experiment much with make-up or fashion until college, but I was 16 then. I was surprised anyone thought I was pretty.. but people look at my old high school pics and say I looked hot. I never felt it. It never even occured to me to feel it.

I became fixated on Transformers (the giant robots) when I was 11. In my teen years I could find nobody else with which to share this special interest, except for two cousins who I rarely saw because they lived far away and only came out to visit when their grandparents were visiting my grandparents.

I wouldn't say I had anorexia, but I was pretty skinny back then. Mom just bought a lot of 'health food' that I couldn't stomach.

Relationships? Fuhgettaboutit. I didn't get along with ANY of the guys. I had no idea why, either. (My sister, who I assume is NT, got plenty of relationships). It's not like any guy approached me in a friendly way; I didn't even get the opportunity to reject anyone. They were all mean all the time. Of course this naturally precluded basic friendship, let alone a relationship.

I didn't even see girls being 'ordinary' friends with boys. The only time I saw girls hanging out with boys is if they were dating or trying to date. So for years I was firmly of the mindset that it is IMPOSSIBLE for a boy and a girl to be 'just friends'.

Always had crushes (the first one on my cousin), never had boyfriends, once got close but it so didn't work out. Mostly not interested in the cliques that were hanging out on the street corners, I read science fiction and listened to music instead. No confidence at all and badly bullied, quietly certain, only in hindsight though.

Loved discos and the ballroom dancing lessons. Had fixations with languages and cultures, starting with French. Threw myself into learning all the languages I was able to.

Thew myself at older, foreign guys at the age of 14, partly because of this fixation with other cultures, partly just to experience what it's like, since the traditional girlfriend/boyfriend thing wasn't working out for me.

Left home at 17 to go to Berlin, always into music, joined a folk dance group, danced on the Charles Bridge in Prague, still couldn't figure out relationships, joined up and became a nun at 19.

Pretty uneventful then.