It's all about how we focus our thoughts. We look to the specific, whereas NTs are more general. We'll talk about narrowly focused and defined subjects. They will talk about common happenings in life that most people can relate to...family, situations with friends, current events, stuff they go through throughout the day. The key to breaking this is to search for common circumstances between you an the other person, and thoroughout the day, look for happenings in your world that you can bring up later.
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Given a “tentative” diagnosis as a child as I needed services at school for what was later correctly discovered to be a major anxiety disorder.
This misdiagnosis caused me significant stress, which lessened upon finding out the truth about myself from my current and past long-term therapists - that I am an anxious and highly sensitive person but do not have an autism spectrum disorder.
My diagnoses - social anxiety disorder and obsessive-compulsive disorder.
I’m no longer involved with the ASD world.