Do you resist change but need variety?

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I am very slow to make big changes in my life. More often than not, it is not by choice but by necessity. I seem to need the comfort of overall regularity. However, I don't understand people who don't want to explore new art,new music,new ideas. It's true that when I find a new piece of music I like, I want to listen to it over and over but I'll never be like those who never listen to anything past the current trend or the music from their youth (like classic rock). I need stimulation but I need it from the comfort of a cozy chair. Is anyone else like this?

Sure. While my daily routine doesn't change (in fact, I absolutely hate doing things earlier or later than what I planned), the specifics do vary. For example, I like to read books about birds, but I don't read books about the same type of bird every time. I like finding out new things, but, like you, I need my comfort and cozyness.

Are you talking about two different things? I am not sure I understood you properly.
I do like my comforts but I would welcome a change if it would be for the better. I have recently moved to a new apartment and it is wonderful on many levels.
My taste in music has changed. I was obsessed with heavy metal when I was a teenager, now my favourite bands are My Chemical Romance, Linkin Park and Muse.

I guess I mean to resist big changes, like moving,starting a new job,starting or ending a relationship, but getting bored and needing variety in small things like trying new foods, learning about a new topic that interests you etc.

Absolutely. I play a wide variety of video games, for example.

But if you're talking about disliking big changes, I'm not so sure that I dislike big changes, but I do resist them. Very often I long for changes, but I do like to know about them ahead of time. I like to be mentally prepared, so that my expectations aren't thrown for a loop and that I can think about how I'm going to deal with it. Moving to a new place, for example, I think is exciting. However, as exciting as change can be, I find myself resisting it, or at least putting it off. I wish I were more receptive to it, because I enjoy the right kinds of changes.

My life is irregular, and I'm always seeking new music to listen to, new books to read, new art to absorb. However, I have a ton of difficulty fitting in comfortably whenever it comes to schools or neighborhoods or groups. It's very uncomfortable and confusing, to the point where you could almost call each change a small trauma, over and above what my counselors consider "normal adjustment". This upset is what I've labeled anxiety, but it doesn't quite fit the picture of any anxiety disorder. I also don't have much of a schedule, but I get really mad if I can't do things the way I planned, sometimes I honestly freak out over something as simple as someone moving my things or making me run 15 minutes late. In that way I am certainly rigid, although at a glance my life seems spontaneous and even disorganized. I also sort of NEED to look up information on whatever events I attend, it makes me feel a lot better even if I'm familiar with the place or the subject. All of the big changes in my life have felt very upsetting and compelled, performed not by choice but by necessity.

Same here. I like to have small changes all the time (learning new stuff, etc.), or else I would be very bored.
However I both dislike and resist bigger changes. A thing that IS a bigger change for me, would be to go to a new place, where I haven't been before.
It makes me very uncomfortable!
A bigger change would also be getting a new job (new place again, and new people!), moving, new things going in to become a habbit when I didn't make the decision, and so on.

I usually resist change in my life, but change always happens anyway given enough time. Many times the changes end up making me happier, but causes stress until I adjust.

I like this thread.. it actually is something I have thought about a lot.
So would be interesting to see what others say/think.

I also, like changing/trying different foods, books, music and art. And if I have time to play games, then yes I will change those as well.

But what I bolded I think is the biggy for me.

Moving can be great, travel can be great.
But, as much as I plan and sort out everything, there will always be something Out of my comfort zone happen.
Or, more like out of my control.

If I do not like a food, a book, a type of music, IN my comfort zone - I can push it aside and forget about it. I can have control of that option.

If I move, I may not like my neighbours, the noise etc - I have No control of it. Yes I can move or I could complain but that can be way to stressful.
If I go to a 'friends' place and they make something for dinner that is HORRIBLE - I have No control over it, do I tell them it is horrible and come off how I usually do? Rude or just try to not put myself into those situations.

Does this make sense?

Major changes I can plan and ready myself for-like when I moved-I had 2 months to prepare or when I got a new job I had time to prepare but I also still work at the old job-but when the daily routine or if I know what I want to eat and work myself up and looking forward to eat something and it doesnt happen I hate it.

Same here for this one, but it could be because I hardly ever know what I want to eat or that I am even hungry
- more times then not, I end up not eating, simply because I was not hungry, or didn't 'think' to eat. Or knew what to eat.

I hate major changes but it also depends. My parents want to swap my twin bed and furniture and replace it with a crib and other tables and sofas. I am fine with that. It's not like they came here one day and had all that furniture and didn't even tell me about it. I would have freaked out then.

I also watch different movies and listen to different music and play different video games. Right now I have been playing Zelda: The Minish Cap and before that I was playing Brain Age 2 all the time. I also like trying different foods. I used to do internet all the time but I get bored with it now so I get off and right now our computer monitor doesn't work because it burned out and I need a new powercord for my laptop so I have been using my husband's laptop so that's why I haven't been on IM lately because he doesn't have YIM nor AIM and the msn messenger needs to be updated before I could use it and I don't wan to wait for it to download before I can use any programs. I don't mind not being online because I have other things to do or can do and I also felt the internet was taking over my life so I needed to cut back on it.

Are they putting in a crib for a baby you will soon have? Congratulations

Always. I'll cook something new for dinner, but I always have to cook it at the same time. I'm okay with going to a brand new restaurant, but I'll usually order something similar to what I eat at the restaurants I default to. The list goes on.

I think your Topic header hits the nail on the head - change, BAD - variety, good.

Just don't show me a variety of positive options and force me to choose just one.

Yeah they are.