Adult aspies being bullied

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Have any adult aspies ever experienced being bullied by younger people, specifically teen NTs. Do you think these situations are likely to happen? There have been a couple situations I've been in recently. One evening shortly before Christmas about 1 1/2 years ago I was at the mall and there were two boys maybe 12 to 14 years old that were not letting me get passed them, all I could do is push one out of the way. Then a few month ago I was at the gym in the stretching area on the floor stretching. the stretching area is in the corner of the gym and seperated from the rest of the gym on one side by a wall about chest high. There were a couple teenage boys at the gym together, they had been someone oberserving me i think occasionally. while I was in that area a wad of wet paper tower came flying in and landed on the floor. another girl who was in there area look at me and wondered what that was about. I stood up shortly after and noticed that one of those boys was on the treadmill in the direction that paper towel came from.

YUP. last year i was walking still 19 years old. and these NT boys started to point and yell mean things to me. they had to be 18 trough 24. bunch of losers.
i ignore them and kept moving.

Last year, around this time, I was getting some bread and eggs, from the IGA, just in the strip mall, beside my building. Two teenage boys were walking towards me. One of them said, "Hey, fatty!" The two boys were walking towards me, even faster. That one kid said, "Come here, fatty!" I got away, before they got even closer, and took a shortcut home.

The kids in my area, also gave me a really hard time, as a Punk Rocker. "Why is your hair green?" "Why are you wearing a biker jacket, in the summer?" "Why are your jeans so tight?" "How come you only wear lime green and black leather?" "The 60s are better than what you are!"

Just because we're out of high school, doesn't mean that the bullying stops.

I do admit that since the day that I've changed on my own terms, people don't ask such questions, anymore. Those same kids see me with my T-shirts or vintage clothes, and they see me with ear buds, or headphones, and they leave me alone. I don't have anything to be seen through, anymore.

ive had kids give me trouble, i even had a 12 year old tell me he was going to beat me up (i was 22 at the time) i took one step towards him and he took off running. theres this kid in my neighborhood who calls everyone "as*hole" he must be 10 or 11, he rides a bicycle up and down the street shouting at everyone, even told a friend of mine what he wanted to do to my friends GF.

unfortunately those sound like typical naughty teenage boy behaviors. and they generally direct their attention towards anyone they feel is different, whether thats by weight or appearance or behavior. its not because of asd status, unless you are outwardly exhibiting autistic traits at the time that they deem "weird".

No, not a great deal. Although, there were a couple of incidents two summers ago. They were not hostility or anything like, it was groups of kids being friendly and overly polite in a suspicious way.

One incident was, I was on my way to a church service when a group of boys started making small talk with me and asking me questions. They expressed a wish to come along to church with me. In my haste to think of a way to avoid kids going around in my company, I was easily able to convince them the church was too far away for them. They were asking biographical/demographical questions (how old are you, where were you born, what's your name etc?).

The other time it was a group of girls. They too had a need to know personal details about me: "what's your name, where do you live, are you single?". And then it was: "would you go out with me?" Like the previous time, I made sure I was quite clear I wasn't interested and didn't want their company.

Fortunately for me, these types of incidents were not repeated. It was worrying at the time as I'd obviously been identified as someone in the neighbourhood whom those kids thought they could accuse of something. You can imagine what they were wanting to get me accused of. It would have been worse than a hostile form of bullying would have been.

Yeah, a couple times.

Once, when I was working as a dishwasher, this 16 year old thought he could throw his weight around and tell me what to do. I was 23 at the time and just ignored him. Then he insinuated that I must be gay, and I threatened to bust him up and bend him over, make him my b****. (Hey, he started the gay crap). The harassment stopped cold.

Second time I was 26 and the guy was 19. We worked in a group home. He started making comments about my body for some reason and wouldn't stop. I cussed him out one day, and he got so butt hurt he stopped helping me altogether. I confronted him (nicely) and things got a little better for awhile. Things went back to being bad though and I got him moved to another house. A low functioning BAD one. Those were the worst bullying situations post high school.

Yeah. Teens and even younger children bullied me throughout a lot of my adult life. I assume the main reason it stopped is because I'm not near teens or younger children right now.

Actually I recall other incidents. Like a flat I used to live in where kids threw stones at my window. This wasn't on an everyday basis, but would happen once every 6 or 8 weeks I guess.

And a couple of boys I repeatedly bumped into on the bus, who used to like asking me stupid questions. For example they put a drawing pin (a huge one) on a bus seat hoping someone would sit down on it, with the head under the covering of the seat, and the pin sticking up. And they kept asking me stupid questions about what might happen if someone sat there.

And three teenage girls on a bus. One sat beside me and the other two on the seats in front. The one beside me sat so her hip and side were tightly touching mine. I kept moving away and she kept moving closer. Then she suddenly cuddled into me and leaned into my chest with a huge smile and one of her friends took a photo of this. At this point, I left the bus.

But these incidents still don't happen on anything like a frequent basis, thankfully.

I've had lots of adult-on-adult bullying experiences that go way back to college. In particular, I've been bullied by guys in male-female dating situations more times than I can count (not outright sexual assault, but bullying nonetheless). I think I have "clueless chump" stamped on my forehead.

Occasionally a few teens would yell a word out their car window at me. I just ignore it. I hear it's random.

When I was 21 and in Spokane, I was walking and I walk by these little kids and they start shouting after me, I just ignored it.

When I was 18, I first arrive to school and I am in the cafeteria getting breakfast and this 6th grader accuses me of lying because he said I cut in front of him and I told him I didn't. It pissed me off because I didn't do anything and he decided to pick on me. Either he was or he was very delusional. He did sound upset too.

I don't get picked on by kids because I get left alone. All that other stuff was random I think or they picked up something was different about me so they targeted me. The last one, I could have been in the wrong place at the wrong time so the kid put the blame on me about cutting in front of him and he was just a problem child who was very delusional.

I think I'm too big and self possessed to constitute a good target these days. I used to have problems like this though in my weaker, less confident days. They can smell it.

This is why I am gratefull I am bigger than most as*holes that and I am not afraid to spit at people. The only place I have been tormented like call names and other imature junk has been on the job where they know I cannot hit them. Bullies are coward only messing with the weak or when they know they cannot be hit without you getting fired.