This guy at my church is so mean...

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He would purposely ask me questions while grinning and then he would laugh at the fact that my answers are short or weird. He is aware that I can't keep up a normal conversation. I think he asks just to "make a funny scene". And when I answer questions that is more than one word, he and other people are like "oooohhh!! ! That was more than one word!!"

The weird thing is that he is like 10 years older than me, so I don't even know why he bothers to be so immature.

Maybe you need to call him out on it.

Something like:
"Does making fun of people with neurological disorders at church make you feel superior or something?"

Do it in front of a bunch of people the next time he tries to make you look bad.

What kind of questions does he ask?

Give me more examples and I'll try to think of something you can say back to him that will induce an existential crisis within him as he realises how much of an idiot he sounds like.

I find it's more fun to destroy people in conversation.

What a dick! I would love to call him out on it. I hope someone does, soon.

Wait you're 19,and from what I can tell from what you've told us, he is in the 29-30ish range and he is making fun of you???

I say kick him in the nuts and run next time he pulls it off. And if he has any sense of self preservation,he WILL stop. If not, keep it up. And if he tries to charge to you with assault or something like that, all you have to do is tell them he was harassing(sp?) you.Making fun of your disability/disorder in front of large groups of people and making you feel uncomfortable, then laughing about it.

Just a tip though, make sure you answer first before you kick, and let him laugh and whatnot, THEN kick and run. Everytime (if he is stupid and it has to happen more than once) this happens follow that routine. This way, he is humiliated/in pain, and youwalk away the victor.

Unless where you live has some sort of completely corrupt court system or something like that, if he tries taking you to court over it, they WILL be forced to listen to your side and probably end up siding with you. Otherwise, they know full well you can take it to another court with more power than they, and pursue both this guy AND the first court for injustice.

Don't believe me??? Its happened to me before.

And we had to take it to another court, and THEY ruled in my favor.

Except it was the School Board Director while we were working at Community Service functions.

jc6chan,

Church should be the last place you should experience bullying. I'm not very religious (compared to my parents), but I know enough to know that picking on someone perceived as weak is NOT what Jesus would do. What this guy is doing is against the teachings of the Christian church.

It sounds like you wouldn't feel comfortable with calling the behavior out publicly. Maybe you can have a talk with the pastor or an elder. Maybe an email or letter to the pastor would also do the job.

If this is too much, I'm willing to assist if needed. PM me the person's name, your name, and the name of your church. I could email to pastor for you. I will be very civil in the correspondence.

This person's behavior needs to be addressed. He's the problem; not you. You should be able to go to church without anxiety over someone picking on you.

Just let me know if I can help.

j0sh

I had people like that "make sport of me" when I was younger at church. I could never tell if it was "affectionate banter" and thus accepting me in the group if i responded with humor, or real bullying that i should have been angry at. I still don't know.

I don't know what he means by "How is the hamburger?" unless you happen to be eating one, which I doubt in a church. But I'd ignore him generally and see if he leaves you alone and if that doesn't work try responding in such a way that it makes him look like an ***.