How many of you cannot get a driver's license?

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16 Aug 2010, 10:47 am

How many of you cannot get a driver's license? By that I mean how many of you cannot operate a motor vehicle?



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16 Aug 2010, 11:08 am

I can drive, and have a license, though what the insurance people would want to charge an Aspie is another matter (any Aspies here insured to drive in the UK?).

As for my driving skill, I haven't driven since my DX (or for some time before), but I always had a feeling that I didn't quite have the head for it somehow. I didn't feel safe at all on unfamiliar roads. I soon realised I couldn't focus on directions and driving safely at the same time, so unfamiliar journeys would take me hours longer than necessary. I guess if I'd had a SatNav then there'd have been no problem.

It took me 3 tries to pass my test......I failed the second one because I was impulsive. I'd sensed before the test that I didn't know how to negotiate one particular junction properly, so I askwed my instructor to take me through it a few times, but we couldn't find any difficulty. When I took my test, the traffic was thick and that's where the difficulty came - how to turn right when you're being prevented by oncoming cars, and the lights are turning back and you're still stuck in the junction. Fearing I'd be failed for not making adequate progress, I turned straight into the path of an oncoming car. :oops: It was something to do with not being able to grasp the situation or explain the difficulty - what I needed was advice about how to turn right at a junction in those crowded conditions when the lights have changed back and you can't hang about much longer. The answer is obvious now - oncoming cars cannot drive into the junction once the light goes red, so all I had to do was to wait a few seconds longer and the coast would have been clear, and the timing on the other lights would have given me time to do the turn before the cars came at me from the sides.

I've also had some experiences that have shown me that I need to keep my patience under control while driving. I've driven way too fast without knowing I've done it, and I once drove so roughly (distracted by losing my way) that the child on the back seat was bounced about like a football - he wasn't hurt but it really wasn't a safe thing to do.

So I'm wary of my driving competence.....if I had a car now I'd be very, very careful.



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16 Aug 2010, 11:17 am

I cant drive and could not even manage lessons, never mind passing a test. Im resigned to it and ok about it now at 31, I let go of that social norm long ago.



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16 Aug 2010, 11:24 am

I'm 24 and live in Haifa, Israel. My psychiatrist, who I visit regularly every 5 or 6 months, told me that I'm not qualified to drive because my reflexes are too slow and because of sensory overloads.



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16 Aug 2010, 11:31 am

I can drive, and I have a licence, but I don't drive very often. I don't enjoy it because I'm always worried I'm going to mess up. If I lived in America I don't think I'd have that problem, though. Driving's much easier there, with the wide, straight roads, lack of roundabouts, automatic cars, etc.


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16 Aug 2010, 11:34 am

I learned at the age of twenty-five, but was not ready at sixteen. I didn't have the reflexes and couldn't think fast enough.

A few years of riding a bike, playing video games like Tetris in which spatial reasoning is important, and simply growing up and having my motor skills mature a little, was enough that I was able to learn. I am currently without a car and learning to use the bus system.

If you can't learn to drive:
1. That doesn't mean you'll NEVER be able to learn.
2. And it doesn't mean you will be stuck at home always; there are other ways to travel, including your own two legs, a bicycle, a bus, a cab, or an assisted transport service.


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16 Aug 2010, 11:50 am

Callista wrote:
I learned at the age of twenty-five, but was not ready at sixteen. I didn't have the reflexes and couldn't think fast enough.

A few years of riding a bike, playing video games like Tetris in which spatial reasoning is important, and simply growing up and having my motor skills mature a little, was enough that I was able to learn. I am currently without a car and learning to use the bus system.

If you can't learn to drive:
1. That doesn't mean you'll NEVER be able to learn.
2. And it doesn't mean you will be stuck at home always; there are other ways to travel, including your own two legs, a bicycle, a bus, a cab, or an assisted transport service.

yes I cant play video games, ride a bike, swim, or eat with a knife and fork, Im very uncoordinated :oops:



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16 Aug 2010, 11:51 am

I thought I wasn't ready at 16, had no interest in learning, preferred riding shotgun with my friends. Then I saw a car that I wanted and all that changed overnight. Been driving since 1976, pretty much every day. Took three tries to pass the practical test, mostly because its damned near impossible to parallel park a station wagon.

Coordination and motor skills were never the problem (although I could have used them as an excuse, I'm clumsy as hell), the only thing that held me back was lack of motivation. And fear.



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16 Aug 2010, 11:54 am

i dont drive, i doubt i could pass a road test. it really sucks because that is the ONLY thing keeping me from advancing at work, i would have to take the deposit to the bank in my own motor vehicle. my AS is keeping me from being a manager because of my inablility to drive. the bank is close enough to walk or ride my bicycle, but the company insists i have a car.


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16 Aug 2010, 11:54 am

Willard wrote:
I thought I wasn't ready at 16, had no interest in learning, preferred riding shotgun with my friends. Then I saw a car that I wanted and all that changed overnight. Been driving since 1976, pretty much every day. Took three tries to pass the practical test, mostly because its damned near impossible to parallel park a station wagon.

Coordination and motor skills were never the problem (although I could have used them as an excuse, I'm clumsy as hell), the only thing that held me back was lack of motivation. And fear.

I think in my case it must be lazyness/motivation as though I could be scared of driving, I cant be scared of a knife and fork :lol:



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16 Aug 2010, 12:19 pm

I had no interest in driving when I was sixteen, and I did not intend on ever getting my license. However my mom forced me to get my license, and after my forth attempt I got my license when I was 19. I didn't start driving regularly until I was 22, and I've gotten into an accident almost yearly since then. This has not deterred me from driving, though I still prefer to ride as a passenger (my friends have driven my car more than I have). I come close to causing accidents weekly, and intersections make me extremely nervous. I hope to eventually live somewhere that driving won't be necessary.



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16 Aug 2010, 12:26 pm

It's looking increasingly likely that I'll never be allowed to drive. Not because of the AS, but because of other issues. Hallucinating in the middle of a motorway is never a good thing.



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16 Aug 2010, 1:01 pm

I can't get a license because of my epilepsy, but even so, I can't drive at all. When my dad and my brother gave me lessons, the best I could manage was on the freeway, because it was all the same. I was always too slow on stoplights and stuff like that. I mean, does it look like I have eyes everywhere or something? That I have to keep my eyes ahead of me. That I have to pay attention behind me. That I have to look at the thing that tells you how fast you're going.

It's kind of like when I'm trying to play video games or ride a bike. I'm just always too slow, and everything happens so fast and suddenly. That's why I only play games like Pokemon, which I can go at my pace. Difference in the video game is, if you die, oh, well, you can start over, or you have more lives.


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16 Aug 2010, 1:04 pm

I didn't get my license until I was 18.

I read that people with AS are '3 years behind' their age.

So if you are chronologically 18, it means that you generally act like a 15 year old. I was this way I think. I'm 25 now but I feel about 21 or 22 as far as my life goes.

I only say this because when I was a senior in HS, I was still mentally and socially a freshman in HS. I was only just beginning to develop independence and a social life as I was leaving High School. I was a bit behind the curve when it came to driving.

I drive now though and I don't give it a 2nd thought.



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16 Aug 2010, 2:00 pm

I got my license at 17, but still got into wrecks every 18 months or so. I had periods of time when nobody would insure me or not at very high cost, or sell me a car. I finally got medicated for ADHD, and now I drive accident free. I live in California so it's pretty much a necessity to drive. I did live for a while in San Francisco, perhaps the only place west of the Mississippi where it's possible and even desirable to get around without a car. I also lived in downtown Sacramento when it was a ghetto and not a high rent arts district like now, and that helped. I had my license suspended for a while because I had too many accidents. :oops:

I now live out in the suburbs, and drive everywhere. It is challenging keeping a car running on my SSI check, and my mom frequently has to pay for major repairs-I needed a $600 radiator recently, and a $250 alignment (alignment + 2 tires) that became a $400 alignment due to some broken bolts. My mom prefers paying for the repairs because she believes she shouldn't be a taxi service for a 35 year old man. Plus I need to pay for oil changes, gas, and insurance. It eats up a fair amount of my check. The public transit system here is "claimed" by various black and Mexican gangs and is not really safe for whites-whites frequently get beaten and dragged off buses. The gangbangers tend to think that the bus lines running through their territories are also part of their turf.



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16 Aug 2010, 2:14 pm

I've noticed the people replying in this thread are those that do not. Some people can drive, others can not.

Some think they can drive, but they haven't a clue.

I am one of those that can and recently went for the extended test and passed that first time