Do you have any best friend ?

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This is the characteristics of best friend according to the neurotypical standard :

-You trust each other

because trust made friendship because we became friends because we have trust to each other.. trust help each other to make relationship stronger..

-He/she has a concern to you
because if he really love you he/she concerts about you coz concern help each other to now that they love each other and being concern to someone is loving each other.

-He/She knows how to appreciate what his/her bestfriend had done for her/him

for example if we didn’t say thank you to our best friend may be he/she will not do again the things that is goodbecause she/he will think that my best friend didn’t appreciate me..

-He/she is always there.

For having a best friend make sure he/she is always there if you need him/her..

-He/she has a shoulder to lean on.

like the 4th one.

-you must be comfortable with him/her

We need to be comfortable with your bestfriend you need to because we need to be because it help ust to know each other more..

-He/She knows how to keep secrets

because we only share our secret if we have trust in him/her and you know that he/she will keep it as a secret.

-He/She loves you

Permanently you need to love each other.

-He/She is fun to be with

You need to be comfortable and happy if he/she is there.

-He/She is the Best

Do you have any best friend who often play with you everyday and anywhere.i only have 2 friends and we only socializing every 1 times a week and sometimes we only socialize and visits every 1 times a month.In campus i have some acquintances and i can't talk with them at all

Yes. My best friend is also my girlfriend. We started as friends though. She is the only friend that I have that is a true friend. I don't trust the couple of other friends that are supposedly my friends.

No.

Have a few "friends" to a lesser degree, bot not that.

Yes, friendship forged the fiery hell of an intensely competitive high school and parental cancer. Some bonds don't break.
I often find that I have one best friend at a time instead of a group of friends? Do other people experience that?
I'm getting better about it now.

I don't know what other people's friendship 'system' is, or even if they have one defined (I've never asked), but mine is very clear in its tiers.

Top tier - significant other.

Second tier - close/best friends:
There are no more than 3 or 4 I would call close friends. These people know I'm aspie, and I sometimes talk to them about it. I confide in them. Money isn't an issue and items can easly pass between us. I don't tell them they're in my 'inner circle' but they might suspect it.

Third tier - friends:
They are who I socialise most with. Probably long time acquaintances, I'd be comfortable around them, but still put on a bit of an NT act. We share small talk and I don't have any issues with any of them. I would trust them with something, but nothing vital. For example my DSLR: only select few people are allowed to touch it, and only my family after hesitation.

Final tier - acquaintances/people I interact with:
This would be people I went to school or uni with but didn't particularly befriend combined with people I refer to as 'service people' (no offence meant, it is simply how I classify cashiers, ticketpeople, sales assistants, and the like) and people I see regularly who I don't intend to befriend.

This may explain why I have less than half the average number of 'friends' on social networks. But I don't care, they can't really have 400 friends... that's more than one per day. Can't be done.

So I don't have a best friend, but I have about 3, I think.

My very best friend is my husband. He fulfills everything I could ever want from a best friend and I'm his best friend too. But, I have a female friend whom I call 'my best friend'. We've only been friends for 3 or 4 years, but we can rely on each other for anything. I suspect I'm not her best friend, as she has 3 sisters and doesn't really need me for the moral support side of things (although I have been there for that too). I'm really useful for the practical stuff.

I always used to think everyone else had dozens of friends.
Turns out it's not quite like it seems:

Unless someone meets that criteria I won't consider them a friend at all.

Nope

I have two best friends that I like to do things with.

I have a friend I considered my best friend not because she met the criteria for "best friend" but because she was the best friend I had. I love her, I trusted her more than anyone outside of my family (no longer true), but I would never say she is always there for me or that I could tell her my secrets.

I could call my family my best friends (at least two of them match all the criteria). but since they are related and I've spent my entire life with them:

I really only have one best friend, my boyfriend. I didn't know it was possible to have a true best friend in this world until I met him.

Not at present though.

No.

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I have 2 friends, one I speak to a couple of times a year when he rings me, the other is like a classic car buddy, we ask each other for lifts to buy cars.
I find friends want more than I can or am willing to offer, prefer my own company and most people are idiots
My wife comes close to a friend I suppose ...

Stu

I have 2 friends, one I speak to a couple of times a year when he rings me, the other is like a classic car buddy, we ask each other for lifts to buy cars.
I find friends want more than I can or am willing to offer, prefer my own company and most people are idiots
My wife comes close to a friend I suppose ...

Stu