Peer relationships

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I find it difficult to get on with my peers, especially those of the same gender (male). I know this is a key feature of AS, but i think the reason is because males tend to be immature, especially those around my age. I find it much more difficult to have a serious conversation with a guy than with a girl. Everything seems to be a huge joke to them or something. I'm not saying I am super mature, but I think in some ways I am more mature and in others less mature compared to my peers.

I also have a hard time, getting along with my same sex peers. A lot of typical women are back stabbers, and they only care about hair, guys and makeup.

At least you can talk to girls. I grew up in single-sex education.

Indeed - though I have the same problem with women. They're horribly immature, and they're often in their late twenties and have been in positions of some authority (teachers, therapists/nurses, etc). Perhaps young people these days, whether male or female, seem immature to an aspie? I tend to get on well with older people rather than young too- my best mate is 75.
Does that mean that aspie people may be more mature of mind?



Arrrgh, tell me about it. I agree completely, and it drives me nuts. I don't know how women expect to benefit from the principles of equality if they're going to behave like this.

Sex peers AND Age peers. Never have had the right interests and attitudes to relate.

CockneyRebel is female?! *brain goes splodey* I apologize, but I had you pegged as male.

That's so bizarre. I must reevaluate everything I know about you.

Always hung out with boys, and they were usually my age if they were just as eccentric as me, which was only one boy. But when I moved, I turned into hanging out with boys who are far younger than me or men and women in their 30-40s. Has always been this case. Even now, it seems, I am more comfortable around people in their 60s-80s+. When I was 9 and also these peer eccentric friends, I had old men with houses colored different colors, old ladies galore friends. I was a very happy awkward child until I had to move. I have moved 23 times in 16 years of my life, 29 times in (almost) 21 years of my life. As you can see, once I took a hold of my life, I stopped moving too much. The financial burden of today's economy is the reason now (The moving was from some important reasons, but mostly bad reasons on my step father's part). But thankfully we are doing decent enough here in Arizona, my boyfriend and I.

They're still immature in their 20's? Dammit, I was hoping they'd have grown the hell up by then.

But yeah, I'm in the same boat, for quite some time by the sounds of it.

I'm spending a lot of time talking shop with guys in their 40's and 50's, and they always intersperse their conversations with immature and inappropriate jokes and references.

It's all about personality, regardless of age. Que sirrah.

Unfortunately yes, and it seems some people never grow up, even into their 40's.

I've noticed that when a group of men get together they seem to regress back into teenagers again.

I can't stand my peers. I can't even relate to them. I have a few other friends who are also not neurotypicals.

ugh, same... im 14, so most girls my agae will only give a care to make up, friends, going out, and hair extensions i, on the other hand, am a complete tomboy, dont give a monkey's about make up or hair, and I only have two friends to cope with, and they totally understand me. and as for going out, i dont, id rather stay in on the computer or video games. i totally feel for you i just cant think of anything to talk about when im with NT's or people I dont know very well of my age. i have no problems at all talking to adults, and i get on very well with young children, to a degree.