Is there term for this?

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You know how Aspies get very excited they are out of control almost, especially as kids, during certain moments. Like think when you were a kid and was around someone you had a little crush on, and you'd get a little hyper and kinda act crazy? Not sure if it happens to all of us, but is there a term for that? Like I notice with my nephew and daughter, their aspergers is on the rise and almost looks ADHD, but they can't listen or focus on anything else except what they are hyperfocusing on. It really seems to take something like a special interest to help them calm down.

I don't think so. I just describe it as being overly-excited.

I believe it's called "hyperfocus"

At my house, it's called bedtime.

Hahahaha... that's too funny

Sometimes we have to either laugh about it or go crazy. It's the truth though!

I thought hyperfocus was more like when my daughter is lining things up, and a tornado could pass through and she wouldn't notice until it moved the items she was lining up. The thing that can make an Aspie almost pee themselves when deeply involved in a special interest...

This is more like...ah I hate to do a specific example, but my poor nephew (so wish I could remember details of one of these moments from my childhood)...

We are at a football game and he meets this girl he instantly liked, a lot. So anyway, he first keeps it all to himself, but just found some extra energy when around her. Then tried to play around her to be near her. Then told all his friends that he really likes her. Then made jokes to his friends that they like her instead. Then tells the girl that he no only likes her, but likes likes her. Then asks her 10 million questions ranging from what is your favorite color to favorite song, and somewhere along the way specified that he HATES it when people answer his questions with "I don't know." I think he said that before he asked her if she liked liked him back. Anyway, at some point, she intentionally responded with I don't know. Sometimes she'd answer the question and then change it to "I don't know." So, he believed she hated him for doing that. He ran up to me like the sky was falling and made a big deal about how she hates him. He wanted to know why. I mean he was repeating himself, very fast speech, and very loud, almost jumping up and down. So he pushes me literally to this girl who I've known as long as I've known my nephew, and wants me to ask why she hates him. So I ask, Do you hate him, and her response was no. He didn't believe it. Repeated how she hates him. Started to pretend I was his puppet and was making me say, "Why do you hate him so much..." This went on like this for the last so many minutes of the game, and as we were leaving, he was still stuck on it. I mean he made such a big deal, he went and stood in one spot refusing to leave until she wasn't anywhere around because she hates him. She really was a good sport, probably only because he's my nephew, and she tried so hard to keep a good distance. Finally I got him to start moving and we were walking a good distance in front of her, and he kept going all the way to the car how he hates her because she hates him. Talking about things she could do so he would know she doesn't hate him, things she'd do if she'd like like him btw. And then we get into the car, and he's still going on about it. At this point, he's mad like on the brink of meltdown. He was very tired. But he was angry that he couldn't stop thinking about her. I tried to change the subject a thousand times. I tried logic. I tried the little lectures on love. I tried everything, and finally his little brother was smart enough to bring up one of his special interests...video games. They started talking details, and about a half hour later, he said he still kinda thinks about her, but like it was no big deal at this point and we moved back to the video games.

And today, my daughter seemed to go through that whole thing in her own toddler way. We went to the store, and she was everywhere. I usually don't bring her with me because she's always like that at Walmart. Only Walmart. I can take her anywhere else and she's a (or almost a) perfect angel. She loves Walmart. She gets excited hearing the word like you were talking about chocolate. When there, she is everywhere. Climbing into things, running off, refusing to ride in the cart or hold a hand, refuses to go where you are going and wanting to go the opposite way just to spite you sometimes, etc. Always toward the end, we play the game where I'm trying to get her to walk somewhere, and she falls to the ground refusing to get up until I let her go so she can run off again. When I'm talking to her, she refuses eye contact.

In both cases, I saw a similar deal with the eyes. You got the aspie glare where you daze off into infinity somewhere. (Love doing that with my daughter staring at/toward each other and coming back to reality at the same time...talk about bonding). You also get a different glare like that when in meltdown mode, and right before and after meltdown mode. And this is a third different one. It's like the glare where you know they aren't with you, and like the anger where there is some emotion involved except not angry, just excited beyond repair. I'm really thinking all are responses to sensory overload. Like I'm starting to believe our senses aren't actually heightened, but our brains response is ultra sensitive to it. Just like how we see bugs a mile away, or notice all the smells or hear the crickets when all the windows are shut... it's like that way too with other things like anger, excitement, anxiety, etc.

Sorry about all the grammatical errors. I'm actually aware they are there. I seemed to have a thing for incomplete sentences tonight. Sorry I didn't edit, but I'm tired. I got to go to bed, and I got one more thing to do before I can get there.

Perhaps hypersensitivity to one's own emotions, or low ability to self-regulate. Common in NT toddlers, for that matter, not just Aspies. I guess we just don't grow out of it as quickly; or at any rate, some of us don't. I'm not very good with the self-regulation bit, and the best thing I learned about that was to seek privacy when emotions became uncontrollable. I'm sure excitement and happiness can get out of hand just like frustration or sadness could, though it's probably a good deal more pleasurable.

self regulation is probably a really good term for this (or lack of). And I do believe that a lot of Aspergers is more a delay in many of the emotional and social constructs, which explains why when I tell my friend anything that's Aspergers her response is, all people do that.