Do any of you like to be looked after or pampered?

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Ok this is a new one for all you laid back types out there....


Do any of you like to be pampered and/or looked after?

I mean think about it, after looking at lots of posts from those who want to live indepnedtly (which is not a bad thing in it's self, in fact it's rather a good thing actully) I was thinking about all of you who may (or may not hence the poll) just like to be looked after, or even pamperd.

So come on all you Aspie Princeses and lards of the manner, speck up and be cunted!

Or if you've not one then please give us you'er views, but please try to be nice as we are NOT all spoiled brats and free loaders.

After all it's not doing any harm, so it's just as OK a life to live as if you did live a more indepedt life stylie

Goodbye Till Next Time

sorry?

This shouldn't even be placed into question form if you're past 18..

Being asperger's, autistic, whichever similar label you posess, doesn't mean you can't live alone - nor does it give an excuse to live with parents and have them babysit you.

i dont think he/she was insinuating that. i think they might be talking about in a relationship setting maybe, i dunno.

on a side note

Never been looked after properly, so I don't know if I'd want to be or not. Could get rather claustrophobic after all this time being independent, but maybe it would be nice to end up in a good relationship with a bit of mutual looking-after. Wouldn't want it to be all one way, I hate to feel like a passive blob and I think it creates an atmosphere of authority, which is usually bad news.

I need help to get through the day (and receive it) but I don't like to be "looked after and pampered" in the way you're describing it. I find that mentality irritating, I know someone who is like that and who tries to get luxuries the rest of us don't get, just for the sake of it being luxury.

'Attended to' = Attention


Attention = social interaction, someone constantly watching.


This is just the sort of idle speculation that makes me question diagnoses. How can you even ask that?

Do you have a social dysfunction that makes you uncomfortable around people, frequently causing you to miss nonverbal cues, leading to misunderstandings and anxiety, yet looove to have someone hovering over you constantly, bringing you things you never asked for and interrupting you while you're focusing on an interest to ask if you're happy?

Duh.

Because not all autistic people are alike, and not all stereotypes of autism are universal.

Just because some autistic people don't like that kind of attention (and just because it's stereotypical for autistic people to not like attention in general) doesn't mean everyone doesn't. As mentioned, I know a very obviously autistic person who loves this kind of attention and "pampering" (argh even the word pampering drives me crazy). She goes out of her way to ensure that she gets what she wants (she also can't tell the difference between a need and a want, and will claim she 'needs' things that other people need but don't get, while she gets but doesn't need them).

Autistic people come in all personality types, including those who see being treated this way as pleasant or as making up for attention they never received as children, or even as a weird status symbol for those who go in for "lower functioning than thou" crap or who see trappings of the service system as something special. These aren't mentalities I happen to have, but it doesn't mean other people don't.

I do. I can think of two examples. If I'm out working on my car I like it when a girlfriend brings me a drink without me asking, when I come inside too hot to even think much less bathe myself that she fills the tub and gives me a good rub down.

i like to have my diaper changed!! ! lol couldn't resist

Sure. My hidden fantasy is that I am capable of mentally controling people who have to follow my whims, being the deliverers of entertainment for me I want to live independently but on the other hand, living with family as I am doing now also have its good sides.

I like to have my zits picked and popped. (For real, this is not a joke.)

I need to be pampered. I have no other choice.

Crikey, I hate that! A partner once popped a zit on my face and I've still got the scar. I was furious because I've always believed that it's best to leave them alone....and the cheek of it, for somebody to just walk up and pop one like it was their face and not mine. Kind of sums up my attitude to being pampared - most people just don't seem to know what they're doing when they try to "help" me. All they have to do is to ask in a manner that leaves me free to decline, but mostly they just guess.

I did not mean it in that way however those two guys/gals have got it down to a tee...

anbuend wrote...

Because not all autistic people are alike, and not all stereotypes of autism are universal.

I did not put not this up due to most of the people who use this site have AS or Autsum rather...

Just because some autistic people don't like that kind of attention (and just because it's stereotypical for autistic people to not like attention in general) doesn't mean everyone doesn't. As mentioned, I know a very obviously autistic person who loves this kind of attention and "pampering" (argh even the word pampering drives me crazy). She goes out of her way to ensure that she gets what she wants (she also can't tell the difference between a need and a want, and will claim she 'needs' things that other people need but don't get, while she gets but doesn't need them).

Autistic people come in all personality types, including those who see being treated this way as pleasant or as making up for attention they never received as children, or even as a weird status symbol for those who go in for "lower functioning than thou" crap or who see trappings of the service system as something special. These aren't mentalities I happen to have, but it doesn't mean other people don't.

That's the most balenced point of view that I've seen on this tread well done!

And OneStepBeyond wrote....

i dont think he/she was insinuating that. i think they might be talking about in a relationship setting maybe, i dunno

Yes you are right! That is what I mean, my ideal woman is a girl whom loves to be 'pampered and looked after' (but not in a demaieing way as I only meant it-more or less- as a figuer of speach.)

The reason for this is however not due to an aleged wish to control her, but becouse of the fact that I can often get wrapped up in other peoples probems (if I'm close to them) I'd rather she have no problems (or very few) at all in her life.

Often the only way to do this is to take care of her.

As it happens I know a few girls with AS who believe it or not I not only get on with very well (and are good looking yes really!) but I would be very happy entering a relalstionship with if they felt happy with doing so. If (or rather when as I've known them for a few months by now) this happens I'll love her so much that I'd have to make sure that she was safe and happy, and as the old saying goes 'if you want a good job done, then you'd better do it yourself'

(On a side note one of them has just dumped her ex-boyfriend after he tried to attack her, but that's another story....)

If she did want to be more indpenednt (e.g. takeing her own job and the like) then that would be OK just so long as whatever she did was not something that would make me worry about her.

Really it does not matter if someone is indepednt or depenednt as the only things that matter are if the said person is happy and the the 'provder' can be trusted not to bully or neglet him/her.

I would not see it as a burden provieding (or wantever) for someone else but I'd be quite gultly if I was so. That is why I'm going to, on top of my becoming a self pubulsed author, become an ebay seller of rare SF goods (I happen to have few items that'll hopefully get me started)

If it had to be so due to curcomstanes than that would have to be something I'd have to put up with. But as the girls who are most interted in me (and likewise in a cuple of cases I with them) are from the AS comuantuty this side of things is (at the moment anyway) not an issue.

Of chouse as it happens I love to be 'pampered and looked after' as the way I see things as long as something gets done it's done and it does not matter who does it be it yourself or someone else doing it on your behalf.

Thank you for reading.

Goodbye Till Next Time.

P.S. I case you were wondering no I'm not looking for a girlfriend via this post but if any girls like what I have wrote then I give you my thanks.

Just so you all know I love to be taken care of and pampered.

GOD just I hate when some mean people have a go at me just becouse I don't work!

The reason being is that a few years ago, I was harresed, bullied, by the staff and costomers at the high street store that I once worked at up until a bout a year ago.

When I was sacked that was the last straw, as I desided that I'd never be a wage slave again as life's to short anyhow and as I can claim benefits (and have a man who'll buy me anything that I ask for) why bother?

I think that you all be a lot happyer if you all just took a more relaxed stanes on things.

Ta now