My brother is a dick and I want to talk about it...

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Today my little bro (big surprise,an NT) pushed the limit too far.He repeated me that I stinked for around 5 minutes while we were playing splitscreen Halo 3 just to get on my nerve and push me into a meltdown (my aunt was at home) ''just for the lulz'' because it's funny when I get a meltdown apparently,since I humiliate myself in front of everybody,so I yelled at him SHUT UP! several time,and my dad told me to calm down,wich only angered me more and made me brother laugh.Frustrated,I went on to play the Sims 2,and my brother,to further annoy me,came to the computer to purposedly press the desktop key so that the computer would minimize the game and return to the desktop,causing massive lag on the computer and slowing it down.He enjoy doing this because it annoy me.Just in time I grabbed his hand and threw it away.He tried to escape and I tried to grab him to beat the @!?!$?/ out of the little brat,but I only grabbed his shirt and ripped it apart.He then became angry and starting shouting me insults like ''YOU'RE SUCH A ret*d!!'' and ''WHAT THE HECK IS YOUR PROBLEM IN YOUR MIND!!'' (But he would also rip apart my shirt if I would ever come to annoy him),he then went on to cry over is dad.I don't know what he said to him exactly,but my dad never confronted me about it and he didn't talked to me about the incident,tough when I saw my brother go upstairs to change shirt he asked me again what was the problem in my head...

Now I know you're ain't gonna do anything about this,but I just wanted to talk about it,since no one I could talk about it would care for me,or they would take my brother side and treath me like a violent ret*d.I'm pissed about my bro!He always behave like this to send me into a meltdown because it entertain him,but nobody do anything about it!!I'M SICK OF THAT!! !!!WHAT CAN I DO TO MAKE HIM STOP!!??! !??! !

How old is he? Maybe he'll grow up.

Next time he says "whats wrong in your head" have an answer ready.

- Whats wrong in your head!
- Nothing! My head just gets confused when you behave like an a***hole because good hearted people dont do crap like that to others... learn to be nice to people or you'll end up going to jail one day!

Yeah, this is a pretty standard little-sib strategy. They'll taunt you to get you angry, wait until you get mad, and then blame you for retaliating at all, possibly even getting you in trouble with your parents. I don't know of any strategy to defeat it, but I think if I were you I'd just avoid your little brother. He sounds like he thinks it's fun to do this kind of thing. Do you have a lockable door?

You might also talk to your parents about this pattern. Say: "My brother likes to make fun of me until I get mad. I've tried ignoring him, but he gets worse and worse until I do get mad. And then he blames me and laughs at me for getting mad." Maybe your parents will have a talk with him and get him to stop it, or at least (hopefully) ground him when he does. You don't want this to get to the point where you and your brother are hurting each other.

Holy crap, I never understood how siblings could be so harsh. With my parents, if someone did something and tried to blame another, all were punished (because it takes more than one to cause trouble, or so was their reasoning). When we found some middle ground, we got along pretty well (course I was the oldest at 13 when we did . . . that's why I have a love of games). But, it helped that our parent's kept things pretty fair . . . if they knew "whodunnit," said person would get punished, otherwise all present at the scene were guilty.

My sister was the same way, and she was sarcastic, on top of that. She didn't think I was very smart, until my dad told her what was going on. She was also very sarcastic about the fact, that I liked the 60s, at the age of 15, instead of the 90s and she had nothing bout nasty things, to say about the clothes, furniture and the music of the 60s. I was thinking the same things about the 90s, but I didn't come out, and say it.

This is unacceptable that your parents allow this. You need to tell them what he is doing in full detail and you and your parrents need to call a family meeting and discuss this as a family. They need to set rules and such behavior from him will be punished.
If they will not do this, you should stay in your room...bring your stuff in there and refuse to have anything to do with the family at all until rules are set and reinforced by your parents.
You need to tell them that by not punishing him for such behavior they are negectfuly abusing you and they are teaching him that such behavior is acceptable. They may think it is just kids play but it is not, by allowing this they are affecting his moral development and we will grow up and continue this behavior and end up in jail as a child abuser or something. These situations only get worse if ignored. He may be a dick now, but he will be an abusive spouse and father...or even a criminal.

What your parrents dont know, but need to know is that very bright kids need as much socailization as AS kids do but for different reasons. With extreemly intelegent children, they dont need to be raised...they need to be humanized into morally bright people.
Without proper socialization a very smart kid can adopt a shark v's plankton mindset where either a person is a shark or they are plankton. A very preditory mindset. And this is what has gone wrong here. Your parrents wrongly assumed that all he needs is a higher grade level to fulfill his potential...he needs more than that. He needs to be taught that when much is given to him, much is expected and he needs to use his intelegence to better the world around him, not to judge it.


As far as what to say when he says "what is wrong with you in the head"
Your response needs to be offensive, not defensive.
You should say, "whats wrong with YOUR head trying to set me off for your entertainment...you are morally bankrupt and will probably grow up to be a wife beater"

Nothing slaps a bully faster than the cutting truth about who they are.

I remember when my sister was getting picked on by older kids for being fat. She told the a-hole that the reason he picks on kids smaller than him was because he had low self esteem and he was nuts and needed to see a shrink" He never messed with her again cause she cut him with her words.

Not that I am encouraging verbal abuse, but if he does things to you...you need to make it very uncomfortable for him to harrass you by verbally ripping him apart each and every time he does it. Dont scream it either...just be calm and vemonous. And when he does these things to you...go for his emotional jugular vein. Dont be defensive, go on a very sharp offense. After a week of this, he will find that abusing you hurts him more than any pleasure he gets out of it.

Also dont react to him physically or by screaming just attack him verbally in a very calm voice. He will be the one going off like a rocket...then you tell him that he is the crazy one.

I know this sounds insidious but it really is in his best interest that you do this because if he thinks he can bully people who are in a weaker possition than him...this behavior will escliate as he grows up and he will become an abuser. By doing this, you punish such behavior. If your parrents ask why you said these things to him, tell them that he needs to be punished for this preditory behavior...if you wont punish him then, as his older brother, you will.


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Jojo