Re: sheltering, I agree. Everybody I know in real life with AS, autism or any number of other disorders is guided through life by their parents until a pretty ripe age. I'm the only exception I know of (too independent minded and functional). It tends to have some negative effects:
- Naievity. This is the most obvious. They take longer to lose the veil that separates them from everybody else's agenda, which is already a problem for most with AS. When they finally do, they will be dealing with a $30,000 credit card debt instead of their baseball card collection, or they will be dating someone who cheats on them.
- Lack of accountability. This is pretty obvious too. They're able to accept and take from others without feeling any obligation to give back in kind, because their parents gave them so much without asking anything. This too tends to be a bit of a problem with a lot of AS people I know - flame me if you will - to get ahead once you leave home, you pretty much have to pour everything out. You have to be prepared to do that. And it helps not to piss other people off when you already suffer from a disorder that causes them not to cut you any slack. Politicians and salesmen can get away with murder - the typical Aspie cannot. I can sometimes, but only using what I've learned about people in a logical way.
- Lack of practical skills. This makes it harder to find a job. Despite what the world seems to think, employers don't give a **** about your education unless it's a Wall Street hedge fund or a university. Well that's a slight exaggeration but... They're hiring you to turn a profit with your time, and they want to know they can do that. Even for the significant portion of us who have unique talents, you can be unprofitable if you don't apply them in a certain way. Plus personal finance is a job unto itself these days. Anyway, it's embarrassing to get caught on the side of the road with a flat tire and not know how to change it.
- Lack of social skills. Any gain in social skill would be worth its weight in gold, if it had any weight, to the typical Aspie. To make those gains, you gotta be thrown into the fray with everyone else. Parents of kids with AS tend to avoid exposing their kids to the free-market social economy that sucks so much but is so important.
Sorry guys, this doesn't mean all of y'all.