MagicMeerkat wrote:
My parents always say that when I was a little kid, I had a "chip on my shoulder". My parents also say that if you took it personaly, I was a "very mean baby". I think my parents have even said that the "chip on my shoulder" thing was the reason other kids were so mean to me. I don't know, it seems that would make other kids want to avoid me like the plauge in fear that I would hurt them physically. My parents also say that kids were mean to me because I "wasn't very easy to get along with" and that the teachers were emotionaly abusive becuase I "gave them a hard time". Basicaly my parents blame me for the bullying and I'm bascialy used to that mindset by now. Anyway, it got me wondering; are autistics often "mean"?
As far as being mean, I'm not this way at all. Revenge and retaliation aren't dishes best served cold; they are best not served at all. I avoid people who would put me in a situation where being mean is appropriate.
As far as the way people take me, I tend to intimidate people too. Although sometimes being intimidating is a defensive mechanism, I can do it without intending to. Years ago, I called one of my employees into my office--a young girl. Something came up that I had to attend to immediately, so she sat there for a few minutes while I worked. By the time I had finished, she was shaking with tears running down her face. And I had called her in to praise her work!
Being able to put on different "faces" in different social situations is what the psychologists call a persona--personae plural. I'm guessing a lot of aspies lack these skills; we only have one way of coming across to people.