I've only been diagnosed with ADD/HD and I have the same problem.
In the lab where I work, I have to ask about the same tests that I asked about the day or week previous... how to process or collect it.. even though I've been doing some of these for the past 5 yrs!
I cannot remember someone's name immediately after I am told it.
When people start to tell me things I have to work really hard to keep my attention focused on what they are saying...
otherwise it's like I just went to sleep and suddenly woke up to see them talking to me... I can't remember hearing anything they were saying.
Writing things down and/or repeating everything back to someone as they are saying it, helps me out at times.
BUT...
Show me something or if I drive to a place once... I'll remember it forever!
I don't remember the names of the streets I was on, but I can visualize the whole way to that one place.
I suppose you do not work at the theatre anymore, but this idea came to me...
Buy some poker chips and use them as color-coded identifiers for the things people would order...
Red for Coke
Blue for Pepsi
White for Popcorn
etc.
With a visual system like that, maybe you could remember orders better?
Perhaps something like this can be applied to other jobs as well?
In my job, I draw blood into different colored and sized tubes.
To be accurate with each lab order, it is best for me to stand by the patient, read the orders off the labels in my hand, and pull each colored tube I need out and set them down on a surface where I'll see them.
Most of the time for inpatients and E.R. patients, I draw blood with a syringe and then transfer it to the tubes.
This is when I really need to have my tubes laid out.
It's a pretty bad feeling to have stuck a patient... put all the blood into the tubes... and at some point after, realize I didn't include one particular tube and the ones I did fill can't be used for that particular test.
This means the patient has to be stuck all over again!
That SUCKS ... for me AND the patient... and their family... and the doctor.......
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