Fitting in

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Did you ever try to fit in as a child/teenager? I'm talking about things like buying the CDs everybody listens to, trying to hang out with the "cool kids", etc.

Yes. It failed terribly.

Never. I was always much more concerned with my own interests.

Yes - I wanted to fit in so I started listening to popular music and dressing up and wearing make-up. The music ended up with me getting very obsessed over certain bands and I also got obsessed over making sure I had the perfect make-up and clothes every day, regardless of context - like I'd be extremely overdressed for even school.. so I looked ridiculous and I fit in even less than before.

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Yep. Never got me to be accepted though and have tons of friends. Nor got rid of the bullying.

I tried that and for a while I succeded.
I bougth similar clothing to my classmates strated listening to the same music, pretended to do similar stuff during weekends and for a while it worked, I wasnt fitting in perfectly but the situation improved.

One day I realized how much effort I had to put in order to fit in perfectly and started looking for other peopel who would accept me as I am.

I tried, really.

I couldn't fit into any single group. You name it, I wouldn't fit.

Being a walking contradiction didn't help, either. I was too nerdish for the jocks, and too jockish for the nerds. Too hyperactive for the goths, too gothic for the hyperactive kids.

I wish I'd known I had Asperger's back then. But meh. At least now I can make some sense out of it.

Not as a teenager, in high school.

In the Langley of today, where there's a 60s revival going on, yes. I've asked myself what I liked about the 60s, a year ago, and I'm going with it.

It's like trying to fit a triangular arse into rectangular pants - so damn uncomfortable and impossible to execute.

I tried really hard. I remember begging my parents for a cabbage patch kid for Christmas because all the girls in my first grade class had them. When I unwrapped the thing, I thanked my parents happily and then stood there staring at its ugly plastic head, and wondering what on earth I was supposed to do with it now that I had it.

It was when I stopped trying so hard to act like people I didn't understand that I made some good friends.

Yep. I tried enthusiastically and failed horribly during the 6th grade, as well as sporadically over the next few years. I recall being told by one normal but somewhat low-status 6th-grader that I had been "better when I was uncool".

I didn't try to fit in.

Well, around the fifth grade I realized I was really different, so I started trying to fit in; but a few months later, I realized how boring and unrewarding it was, so I stopped trying. Now, in college, I've found that I can "fit in" just fine with other eccentrics, people with various disabilities, unusual backgrounds, and just plain nerdy people--groups where people are different from each other by default.

I knew I didn't fit in as a child---so I would not want to do things with the other kids---Way to AWKWARD. This used to upset my mother since she thought I should be doing more of the "kids" things. Eventually she just realized I was different. I had one close friend and we did a lot together. He talked me into going to a KISS concert in 1979---OMG!! !! !! !! !! !! ! The noise. GET ME OUT!! !

I definitely enjoyed and preferred my world of my interests by myself much better.

I did attend some school dances because my parents thought I should at least try to go. I kept the benches warm. I couldn't dance at all---nor did I feel comfortable in trying. At one party at a fellow classmates, I left the garage where the party was and went inside her parent's house and played the piano for them.

Not at all. I was one of the weird kids in middle school and one of the loners in high school. And I was always a major nerd. Especially by high school, I wished I had more friends, but I didn't want to pretend to be like everybody else just so that I could be more popular.