I will not have children because I dont want to spead AS

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that is said and done, I hope my sister has children to satisfy my grandparents and parents. I dont want any kid to have AS and have to go through with it, if theres a guaranteed NT child, then ill do it, for now, I will continue looking for employment.

Anyone who has AS and wants to have children should be ashamed of themselves, I was reading posts with people saying they prefer to have kids with AS, how selfish indeed.

Living creatures are supposed to be selfish when it comes to spreading their genes. For all you know, those savant genes could end up being the most sought after in a future world where primitive ignorant monkeys are a dying breed, just as thousands of years ago no one could have imagined that the most intelligent people would have an infinitely greater status than those who were best at hunting pigs. AS suffering could quite possibly become a thing of the past if those in the present aren't so weak that they simply abandoned all belief in their own ability to carve out a decent "tomorrow".

And you lost all faith in yourself and gave up before then. Oh well, see ya.

We'll probably do fine without cowardly quitters who won't/can't contribute.

OP, are you working undercover as a journalist, for Autism Speaks? It sure seems like you are, and I want to have 20 kids.

If you have AS, then your sister could also carry the gene that causes ASD and pass it to her children. There is no guarantee for anyone.
I didn't know that I had AS until this year. I'm glad I didn't if it would have meant that I chose not to have the four children that I have. One is positively diagnosed with PDD-NOS and two others appear to qualify for an AS diagnosis. They are all great, I can't imagine not having them in my life. They all have special skills in one area or another and the three oldest are all gainfully employed, two are in long term relationships - one married, the other has been living with his girlfriend for over 3 years.
The youngest is in grade 10. Today he went to meet a science teacher that one of my older boys had at the same school. This teacher was very happy to meet him and told him that he just loves our family.
When I look at my maternal family I see AS all over the place, it seems to be very dominant through many generations. I wouldn't trade these relatives in either, they are loyal, honest, loving, responsible human beings who have been great role models for me and my children. Not bad traits to pass on in my humble opinion.

I got diagnosed after my son. My daughter probably has AS too. I love my kids and they love me they enjoy their life and by the way it's different now than what it was when I was a kid. If I wanted to have another kid I wouldn't let AS stop me. Consider that as a species it takes various different types to have the entire species prosper. A lot of Aspies grow up and love certain things and in the past there have been unique individuals that have made massive contributions. I think having kids is a personal decision.

I'd have both my kids again given the choice and if I knew what I do now.

Having AS isn't a death sentence, and just because you have it doesn't mean your children are automatically "doomed".

At least,I would hope it doesn't.

First off, its possible that siblings, etc. of people with AS are more likely to have AS kids than AS people are. The fact is I think its dependent on the case if the person should consider reproducing or not. Their are autistic parents on this planet; particularly when people have kids & than get diagnosed AFTER reproducing. Personally, I don't want to purposefully have kids b/c I'd feel guilty if they turned out like me or worse + if they were NT, I wouldn't "get them". Also, due to birth problems I had I don't know if I can have live children/ones w/o brain damage...

I guess I'm selfish for wanting to have cool and quirky kids. Who fits in in the world anyways? There's only one person with a standard deviation of zero. Therefore, I think that they're the weirdest person of them all! There's my stats joke for the day lol. I think that more people are getting diagnosed with AS because, evolutionarily, they are the more wanted traits. We "need" technology to survive, and some of the richest people nowadays are some of the nerdiest people (who also may have AS). So more people are attracted to them, then they have kids, which then spread the aspie "gene" (or genes; no one knows what exactly causes ASDs). This isn't the only thing causing more diagnoses, just one of the things that may be causing it. AS is also in the DSM, which also causes more people to be diagnosed (that and greater awareness). Just my theory. I don't think that people shouldn't have kids simply because they have AS, or any disorder for the matter. What is normal by the way? What is abnormal? Everyone suffers in one way, shape, or form, so I guess humans just shouldn't reproduce

I'm in the same boat...I hate the life my family had paved for me up til I moved out, I feel hate and sympathy at the same time because it's not entirely their fault. Their seems to be a hint of similarity amongst the family members, and I would fell awful to continue the line of misfits. It's not fair at all.

Although, I guess adoption is still an option.

You're selfish. Because "AS/Autism is an epidemic!!11", right?

If you're that serious about this, consider adoption, since some children need it.

Helpful advice! But you're not going to come back to this thread again and check for replies anyways, are you?


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I don't think I'd want this person adopting a child, or having children at all.

Well fitting genes topic

I am AS, and have three biological NT children.

Having children is like guessing what number/colour the ball will land on a roulette wheel. You just never know theoutcome where the ball will settle after the spinning stops!!

I smell a troll.

its upsetting to hear talk like this, I dont know just what you've been through but if any of our parents thought that we wouldn't be here and im happy im here and I plan to have children to pass on my gorgeous eyes: ) and my love

That's ridiculous. There's nothing shameful about having kids. If you don't want them, that's fine. That's a personal choice. But this post just reeks of self-hate. I'd suggest taking a good long look at the positive qualities of AS, and how you can make the most of them. Best of luck in finding your way.

Personally I hope to one day have a family of my own complete with my own spawn.