dt18 wrote:
My other question is, why do symptoms of autism show up later...like when a child is 3 or 4 years old? I've even read that it usually starts out suddenly....out of nowhere
The "starts suddenly" variant is childhood disintegrative disorder--an extremely rare form of autism that some people think probably does not have the same genetic cause as autism proper. The vast majority of cases have been present from birth, but because autism affects skills that you only start to expect of children in their toddler years (age two or three), it only becomes obvious, in many cases, when the child doesn't get those skills along with his peer group.
The toddler years are also extremely stressful and developmentally demanding; while a baby is only required to lie there and babble a bit, reach for things, and possibly look Mommy in the eye, a toddler is expected to learn an entire language, learn to share, learn to process his own emotions, learn to count and tell letters apart, etc. The language explosion of the toddler years is where autistics often start getting left behind. The child is diagnosed, and the parents look back and think, "Hmm... he was odd all along." It just didn't seem serious until language got left behind.
The other developmental stage where autism can become apparent is the kindergarten through first or second grade, where social demands increase sharply and autistics who learned speech with not too much trouble will start to show up as being far behind their peers in things like back-and-forth conversation, understanding friendships, etc.
Actually, autism becomes more obvious anytime some large parcel of new skills is required of a child... that includes things like the early teens, where people are expected to have all the self-care skills down, and the late teens, where people are expected to become independent adults.