Possible Hyperempathy?

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I keep thinking about AS symptoms and how they relate to me. I have a lot of them, but there is one thing that bothers me.

I might put myself in other shoes TOO much unless this turns out to not be empathy. Basically I have a hard time debating or saying no. I see others viewpoints to the point that I can't even think of a rebuttal to something I know deep down I don't agree with.

For example, a person I knew over the internet got a boyfriend that had a very radical viewpoint, I was about to chew her out over it until I looked at their website. Some of their arguments made some sense! I could understand why someone would believe that! So I couldn't chew her out. I didn't cross over into believing it myself that time, but sometimes when I encounter stuff like this I do. (btw I won't say what he believed, but she didn't even want to say at first what he believed because it was highly offensive to the vast majority of people)

It's exhausting, I change viewpoints on subjects so much, it just takes one good argument against a view I held onto for a long time to persuade me to leave it.

I try to hold on to certain views, but I find I have to really keep reading about the view I like and read counterarguments to the other side's arguments in order to maintain that view.

Also saying no.... especially when I say no and then the person explains to me why I should do as they say... I can't resist very much at all.... it's a personal weakness.

I don't think you have hyperempathy just from that anecdote. But it does show an open mind which is a very positive trait to have.

I think empathy in that case may have been decidin not to chew her out based on an innate understandin that chewing people out would make her feel like crap/angry and as a tactic rarely works.