Anyone have this trait?

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does anyone else have this trait of opening up to people too much. Like after a few days of knowing someone, feeling like you made a connection and then sharing a piece of yourself, like your past adversity or something and then they just look at you differently. I did this with a few people i have to see on a regular basis, i am learning and trying not to share so much information with people, but it does not help my social anxiety to know that i did this. Even worse i sent a response about how i need to stop telling him so much. Bah, just curious if others do this crap too. I know my mistake so its not as if i will not be able to change and improve, but the weirdness is done lol.

Oh yeah, big problem I'm working on... I will spill my life story to total strangers... til their eyes glaze over and they start to nod off..

Oh God, yes. I didn't realize I was doing it until I was in my 30's. People would tell me I was too intense - I didn't understand why. To me, I was just being really honest.

Yes. I give people too many details, but then again, I just shrug it off and continue to tell personal stuff as though I'm commenting on the weather.

Its definitely a problem I've had to work through. I have no problem talking about my medical condition (porphyria) or my past abuse history, but most folks get weirded out by it. Honestly, I've just gotten used to it. I tend to attract other folks who experience life on a deeper level. It means that I have fewer friends, but I don't like living on a level that is so superficial that I have to make endless small talk.

However, I also have learned how to protect myself from people because too many folks will take information about your past or weaknesses to exploit you and hurt you in some way so you have to be prepared to handle that should it come up.

well thats good, i can't even tell you how happy i am a family friend told me about NLD. I don't feel so strange anymore, i feel 10x more human then i ever have.

Yeah I tend to say more than I should, especially on facebook! That is VERY bad since I am using it as a networking device for my upcoming book. (I published one already but with this one it's a lot more of a big deal as I am working with a publicist too). I need to really hush up when it's appropriate.

Mir

yea i stopped using facebook for that very reason. Whenever i was depressed or something i would share a nice chunk of my feelings. And yes the post above is totally correct, i have fewer friends, but they are all very deep and unique people. I am not so sure that being normal is good, "normies" lol, usually have a lack of empathy, arrogance and the ability to speak from pure ignorance with total confidence they know what they are speaking of and are so very quick to judge others. I made a total ass of myself on facebook, and as far as the bar scene, i won't even go there. I don't drink anymore thank god, but i can't step food anywhere in my town without feeling nervous, i have made such an ass of myself with my lack of insecurity at every bar around me lol. But just like everything, i need to work on it, and i will. Im not weird i tell ya, im not!

I do this too much. I try to relate by sharing experiences that might not seem at all related to other people. I pretty much have no concept of "too personal."

Luckily I dont go out of my way to meet people, so this sort of thing rarely happens. I think my friends are used to my overly personal sharing.

Eh whatever, I say if people don't like you for who you are, then they are not worth it. I know a lot of open-minded and gentle NT friends who do put up with it but have warned me over and over again to tone it down, especially when it comes to me having a good rep for my future book sales! So I need to remind myself if I am feeling this way to just write a journal and pretend that I am saying it to the world LOL.

Mir

Something like that...yeah. I'll tell deep personal secrets to complete strangers.

I give too many details too. What usually happens is that they say something and then I answer the question and then give a back story on why i answered it that way, which means I must delve into my past.

Nope. It takes YEARS of knowing a person to feel comfortable to open up just a little bit to a certain person.

I also find myself doing the same thing. I tell people every detail of my personal life and past. I've gained some control over it, but I have a ways to go.