Extreme Demotivation

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I don't really know whats wrong with me as of late. Personally, I think its a bit of depression. But I still enjoy doing some things like hanging out with he new "friends" I made. But then there are things that I do not enjoy as much. I use to go to these scooter club meetups, and meetup with people who drive Vespas, and other forms of scooters. But now I find a deep lack of excitement and interest of going.
Same thing with school. I had laser point focus this year. But I guess the several fights, the several frustrations with the teachers, have left me battered and worn. One class I have a "D" and the other class I probably have a "B-". I came in this year, ready to make a change. Ready to do something more and be better than what I was last semester. But lately my motivation to continue is beginning to dwindle. To the point that I don't want to go to class. I don't want to do the homework. I don't want to do anything. I don't know why I get like this. It seems like every year, I do really good in the beginning of the semester, then I am okay in the middle, and by the last few finishing points of the class I begin to lose focus, lose motivation, lose everything.

Does anyone else have this problem?

Is there anyway to solve this problem?

Is it depression or something else?

I'm pretty much at a lost.

Yeah. I think the solution is to take a break (where time allows of course). go into the countryside somewhere for a day perhaps. then return to battle. this is what i did in my third yr at uni

My parents aren't exactly the type to go on vacations. Or take holidays. And they certainly wouldn't allow me to do so either.

it does seem like depression. get that check out as soon as possible

I'm just unmotivated. i rarely want to kill myself anymore, so i'm just a lazy

Well I don't want to kill myself. Last semester was a poor lack of communication from the teacher and myself. I passed with a "C", but at the same time I can do better.
Was always an "A" student.

But then I would have these moments. Where I just.

But I realized, beginning in semester was doing really well Summer, was beginning to ween on motivation Late Summer, lack of motivation begins in Fall. Throughout Winter.

But it isn't SAD [seasonal affective disorder]. I know this.

I would currently describe myself as extremely demotivated. I'm supposed to prepare for exams next year, but I've only been studying half-heartedly the past month and haven't done anything at all today, even though I ought have. Much the same happened a year ago, and two years before that, when I was 'preparing' for the very first exam.

In 2008, I have felt depressed and apathetic due to several factors in my personal life. Ever since, I have not been able to get rid of a certain lingering indifference inside of me toward the rest of the world. In my case, my lack of motivation is caused by a disappointment in the world around me, society, and perhaps most importantly, myself. I realise that this is a completely wrong attitude, but so far it hasn't killed me.

I don't know how to solve this problem, so I can't tell you how to restore your motivation. But I can tell you this: if you slip the way I have been slipping over the past few years, you may find yourself in a position that's even more difficult to get out of. I would encourage you to continue school for that reason alone. Even if you decide to take some time-out from everything after you finish school, you'll at least have your diploma.

As for your scooter club meetups, sometimes it's good to take a break from things like that. Heck, if you purposely miss out on one or two meetups (depending on the frequency of the meetups), you might even come to miss it and maybe you'll find you want to return. OR it could be that you'll quit doing that altogether, ending a chapter of your life. Interests change and shift, after all, and sometimes they flat-out disappear. Maybe it's time for you to find a new interest or hobby, or even revisit an old one long-forgotten.

A lot of people view school as a chore, I think the majority does. I, like you, was a grade-A student once, and even then I found school an enormous chore. But you have the skills to punch yourself through and pass with flying colours, that's a blessing. And try and sort out the troubles you have with your teachers as much as you can, but don't let them stand in the way of your own performance at school. Paradoxally as it may sound, lately when I struggle with my motivation or with the gravity of a situation, I just tell myself to NOT attach too much importance to what I'm doing (that is, not in the sense of worrying it would be the end of the world if I would fail). And then I just jump in and do it. Sure, I still have a sense of value and importance, but I put it in perspective.

Whether it's depression or not may be difficult to tell, but if you suspect that it is, it might help to talk to a psychologist. Better to take a depression on while it's budding, before it drags you down completely.

EDIT: I would ascribe much of my own lack of motivation to fear of failure, which is also related to my perfectionism. I have read that many on the spectrum suffer from this. Do you think this is true for you as well?

Well cyclops, I always had fun in school. To me it wasn't a chore. I always enjoyed learning, and learning new things. I always had fun learning the new thing.
I'm one of those kind of people who learns a new thing and goes on the internet and reads a million different articles and even watches a bunch of documentaries on said subject. I get heavily interested.

I think the chore is probably the homework. Because, I'm the kind of person who learns it once, and can cognitively place it within in different situations. I tend to learn fast because I become extremely focused on said subject. I become almost addicted.

Since I'm faster than the class, I read the book before class started. I get easily bored because I want to move unto the next big piece of new information.

I think thats where my lack of motivation occurs.

Also the fact that I'm the kind of individual who has outside the box views to societies norms and to the norms of the classroom. I get bored because I'm forced to reign myself in.

Last year I was poorly graded because I had several outside the box views and I alienated my teacher and everyone for stating them. So this year, I haven't said any of my outside views. And have really reigned myself in.

But then that bores me. I like hot debate. I like hot conversation.

See I would prefer if homework was a different way of correlating the information. I can clearly understand and correlate the information in discussion format.
Not so question and answer.

Because question and answer, especially timed, doesn't give me what I need. Its just specifically answer to this question that can be taken multiple ways. Some questions are written so subjectively, you wonder why the answers are so objective.

I prefer discussion and can do discussion based homework.

Personally, I think discussion is the better way to go for all schools when it comes to correlating information. The only way to understand said information is to discuss it and put in certain different situations.

I wish schools allow you to discuss said information, such as class discussion on Chpt 1 for homework. They have things like D2L and moodle, which makes setting up a forum very easy.

Just answering a question isn't learning. Its just remembering information.

You are up against a big problem with public/government-boxed education: It is intended to only offer what the government wants you to have for its own sake or benefit and is not intended to truly challenge and exercise you into your full potential. An occasional teacher might want students to learn how to think, but teachers are really only paid to tell them *what* to think.

Good grades can come from simply doing the drills, but good educations come from personal activity far beyond the typical classroom.

I'm trying. Just the drill begins to kill me slowly.