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13 Nov 2010, 9:36 am

...People Think/Getting People To Like Them

Considering how intense our obsessions tend to be what happens then?

Also what would happen if someone was obsessed with keeping their individuality but also obsessed with getting people to like them?

Or what if the perosn was obsessed with keeping their individuality but also obsessed with getting people to understand them? (Big difference between "like" and "understand". Personally it makes me angrier when I'm misunderstood than unliked.)



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13 Nov 2010, 9:55 am

I became obsessed about my image and for a while looked quite glamorous and continually got unwanted male attention and spited by females. It didn't make anyone like me any better, though. People were only more positively disposed towards me while they were staring at me and not after they got to know me. Since I still didn't know how to "hang out" or do small talk, the social acceptance was fleeting. I attended a lot of glamorous parties at which I became deeply interested in the occupants' cat or dog or in their bookshelf. I was introduced to many excellent cats and dogs this way, but I don't remember the people being interesting or interested in me.



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13 Nov 2010, 10:59 am

MollyTroubletail wrote:
I became obsessed about my image and for a while looked quite glamorous and continually got unwanted male attention and spited by females. It didn't make anyone like me any better, though. People were only more positively disposed towards me while they were staring at me and not after they got to know me. Since I still didn't know how to "hang out" or do small talk, the social acceptance was fleeting. I attended a lot of glamorous parties at which I became deeply interested in the occupants' cat or dog or in their bookshelf. I was introduced to many excellent cats and dogs this way, but I don't remember the people being interesting or interested in me.

Unfortunately, I can relate to this. For all of my careful grooming, I too earned unwanted male attention, and jealousy from the females. I was also constantly misunderstood by many, which infuriates me.


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13 Nov 2010, 11:28 am

That person will at a point or another choose to drop every single bond, change country and start everything from scratch in a completely different culture to see what initial parameters are wrong.


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13 Nov 2010, 2:35 pm

Once I saw how good I look without my hair spiked with that coloured gel and putty, I became very enthralled with my looks. I've been wearing some very smart looking vintage looking clothes, since than. I'm obsessed more in a sensible way, than in a superficial way. I do get a little too obsessive about the fact that I look like a young version of my favourite member of my favourite band.


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