You guys strive for perfection

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Not everybody can do everything perfect.
This forum throws out a bunch of details that aren't necessarily important for anything. Like face blindness. How many faces do you need to to remember? You do not need to remember everyone, just the people that are important.

The things that get talked about in the WP forums are not neccessarily what people consider "important" for everyday life. Sometimes somebody just needs to hear/read that others have made similar experiences as they have. I think of those topics as the WP equivalent of smalltalk - it's not strictly speaking relevant, but it's nice to talk about it and hear what others have to add.

If those topics bother you, you are free to ignore them; nobody expects you to work your way through every single post on WP.

And please do not be upset with me now; I am not trying to be deliberately rude to you, I am just trying to explain to you why some people wish to post about topics that bear no personal relevance to you.

But some people get offended or pissed when you don't remember them because you couldn't recognize their face. So it would make you want to remember their faces. That person might not be important for you to remember but to that person they feel it was important for you to remember them.

I strive for perfection in everything that I do. That doesn't mean that everything I do is going to be perfect, but it does mean that everything that I do will get better with time, until the things give off the illusion of perfection.

Giving a gesture of recognition to someone you have never met before can also be awkward

That's a perfect summary of what I think

I take no offense, I don't even consider that rude especially since my tone probably comes off as offensive to some.

You got it wrong, I was just saying that perfection isn't a real goal and you should be proud of your differences as long as you can function. Also, that part about the topics pertaining to me, I have no clue how you got that from what I said.

It is difficult for me to remember peoples faces, if I don't see them for six months or more (and they had little emotional impact), I won't remember them. Sometimes these people are clients of my Mother and they can and do get offended that I don't have an idea who they are (thus I pretend to know most people who appear to know me). Also, I won't remember a person of low emotional impact after one meeting at all sometimes (mostly), usually forgetting them within minutes (at worst) and usually forgetting them within an hour (at best).

The fact I forget/don't process them isn't about them, it's moreso about me. I always remember to try to be polite and smile though.

Animal faces are easier to remember for me, I don't know why.

i get people talking to me, knowing my first name and some information about me that suggests to me that i should know who tf they are.

I just nod and walk off nochelantly and then ask someone who i know...who tf was that?

happens all the time.

happens to non As people too.

it used to bother me.....

I remember faces, but I don't remember many names. I strive to remember names, but I have a very hard time. The thing is that people might judge me by my ability to remember names.

Try not recognizing two colleagues at work are separate people, for a month and see how angry they get. They wore a uniform, had similar hair and body styles. Even after going to the effort of memorizing aspects of their face that I can use from a company database of photos, I cannot recognize them fast enough to use their name in a greeting, so they still think i cannot tell them apart.

even recognizing people who are important, If I'm not in a situation that i expect them, it will take me a long time to recognize my own family. I have walked by my own brothers and parents, many times within only a couple feet, I will not recognize them until they stop me. If they get a drastic haircut or gain/lose weight it feels like they are strangers.

The first girl I ever asked out was not the person I thought I was talking to.

Yes in the larger scheme of things it is a small problem, yet there are times when it is very annoying.

I don't participate on this board so I can strive for perfection. What I find of benefit is that I can gauge myself depending on what others are saying about themselves. So talking about face blindness allows me to consolidate my understanding of what that is and to assess my own difficulties in that area.

This site is more useful to me than any doctor could ever be.

I needed to rant about face blindness because so many people take it as a personal insult, and assume that you do not make the effort to learn who people are. I think NT people have very fragile egos sometimes.

I should not have taken that out on your nice rational conversation, please accept my apologies.

Yes, it seems that I indeed misunderstood your primary intention. I thought you were complaining about people spamming the forums with information irrelevant to you and that face blindness was just an example for that as there has been a number of face blindness topics in the last few days.

One of the things I have learned about social scripts is that sometimes people don't give information in a straightforward way and refer to the matter important to them only in an indirect way. I try to figure out those secondary meanings IRL, but there (and here) I sometimes get the focus of the speaker's intention wrong.

I'm glad you did not take it as a personal offense. Hope I'm not being to much of a bother to your topic.