Do people talk down to you?

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Do you notice a condescending nature when people talk to you? ie. tell you how special you are or applaud you for doing something simple.

Oh yes! An NT I have known since 2000 has finally been moved out of my life by me. He speaks down to me for years and I am no longer that young man he thinks he can control. I've matured through the years and have a lot more then he does and he is furiously envious of me and my success. He thinks he knows all about AS and I don't fit what he understands and so he feels threatened by me.

He's thinking to himself: "Hang on a minute. He has Aspergers! He shouldn't have what he has!" He knows I am a clever person, but I am cleverer then he thinks I am. He's out of my life now, and yes to you NTs, I do have the right to have my own mind and opinions. Any NT who attempts to get me down will be dealt with any way I deem fit. You don't own me or control me. You think you do. I have broken free and that frightens you.

Also I have a lot more then the NTs I know. People like me are called stupid, am I? NO!

Yes, all the time. My parents, my grandparents, aunts, uncles - they all talk to me like I'm a child. Pretty much everyone who finds out I'm autistic treats me like a child. I am ambivalent about it; part of me loves being treated like a kid, but there's also a part of me which resents it.

I would love to spit in their faces when they do this but it would give the person more reason to think I am some sort of idiotic barbarian.

Last edited by Todesking on 20 Nov 2010, 12:30 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Absolutely. People have always talked down to me. I solved it by talking down to them.

Normally they say they feel like I talk down to them. I am a bit too concise with my vocabulary and diction.

Some people I have dealt with in the past did talk down to me. But they talked down to everyone.

Some people do, they will see the error of their ways soon. My dad is the main one. He hates all the work I've done to my car, he points out how much of my interior is missing (dad, I stripped it...I like it better in bare metal form). I figure one of these days when I'm done working on my car I'll pull out next to him on a big road and floor it and blow by him and there won't be any denying that I built it and it hauls ass!

None of my peers really talk down to me persay at least not in a language that I understand (slang or street) some of the teachers that I have dealt with talk down to me not any that have stayed long, but temps. For example the chef in my school last year talked down to me, though I didn't take him seriously since he lite butter on fire TWICE in one day in one hour in like 4 min interval in fact so you see how smart he is lol. (He cooked the butter too long and it caught on fire, he put it out by putting another pan on top of it then immediatly put the pan on a lit burner and it caught on fire again) I guess 35 years of culinary didn't teach him how to pay attention to his ovens.

Absolutely, but I can understand why. I'm extremely quiet, I don't work, I'm perpetually single and I'm usually seen in the company of my mother. If I didn't know better, I'd be condescending to me too.

Ummm, the_curmudge your 60????? Not to sound rude its just logic in my brain is having problems with processing your comment. Nothing against you and I'm not trying to be condisending or anything just surprized I guess. Nothing wrong with it though.

Yes! Mostly some of the special education assistants I have had. Lots of them had been subs. I also found this in some of my elementary teachers, not middle or secondary school so much, but mostly in elementary school. However, most of my special education assistants have been pretty good for that and some elementary teachers were OK too.

This usually only occurs when they are aware that I have AS and don't really understand what that entails. My verbal IQ is quite high and the rest isn't far behind and so they usually end up feeling like fools after attending one of my presentations, or at an event where I give a speech, or when they are emotionally distressed and I just happen to be the nearest person to them to cry to.

And then, if they find out what field I'm in, they stop talking to me because they really feel like fools, so I generally avoid telling them what I do.

Yes, I find it annoying as hell most of the time.

I don't even tell people that I have AS. I live my life as normal as possible and I get myself out there and do what needs to be done. If people wanna speak down to me, I just take them on. If they don't like the backlash, then its tough luck. I'll just give it to them again.

Having AS shouldn't mean that we are treated with disrespect.

NTs take note. You have been warned.

Not really. Even when they find out I may have AS, they aren't condescending towards me.