Going to a new place

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I'm always scared about going to new places. I'n two days I'm going to a town I've never been to before and an RSL club I've never been inside of.
So I decided to look up photos of the club.
Result = instant panic.

Of all the places I've been I keep visual memories of them, like photographs of each section.
I don't even remember what was the last building I went to for the first time.
The RSL club is really big too. However it reminds me of another venue I've been to. I wonder if I just pretended I was going back there if I would feel more comfortable?

I still want to go but I just can't shake these feelings.
My friends will be there with me. They will protect me from the evil unknowingness, right?

if u don't go u might be left thinking 'what if'. sometimes i think it's best to kamikaze into things or they never get done

I always look up photos of places I'm going beforehand. Maps too. The last time I went overseas, the people I was with thought it was really odd that I seemed to know my way around Dublin, Ireland seeing as I'd never been before.

Your friends will protect you, go and have fun! One gains something from every new experience, even if it's just the knowledge that they don't want to do that again...

Yeah I probably will have fun. It's either likely to happen or not happen.
I just had such an overwhelmingly fear of it before.
Reading seems to take my mind off it. I may have to take my Doctor Who book with me.

Kamikaze doesn't work for me. I need to prepare. I also need to leave if it gets too much for me.

you know you better than any of us, but I'm not sure this would work. It could kid of set you up for an unpleasant "surprise" when you get there and are faced with the fact that where you are isn't where you prepared yourself to go. (if that makes sense)

And yes. That's what they're there for!

I get like this too sometimes (strangely never when its for work.. my job is pretty much going somewhere new every day!). I always find a dry run helps massively as it removes a few unknowns from the process. Looking at photos / google street view helps.. but a proper dry run always seems to help more.

If you can somehow get access to the place without the usual number of people there it would be even better. But I'm guessing thats not really possible.

And finally. Remember you can always just leave if it gets too much for you. Friends should understand you might need to get away from it.

I think that you should go and have a good time.

Thanks, no doubt I will. The band playing is kind of my own 'Kinks.'


I checked out photos and that caused me to panic. Just getting my mind off it helped.

No doubt the days leading up to it will be full of uncertainty.

We might get to the venue early and probably eat inside. That can ease nerves.

I told my friend how I felt and I'm waiting to hear back. We share a lot of personal stuff dealing with anxiety.

I do love this band and they know me (I'm not sure how much they remember about me though). I've not had a good track record at their gigs though. Their road manager always gets concerned about me. But it's in a 'don't you dare interrupt this show again' kind of way.


Thing is I kind of know that it won't work. Looking at photos made it worse. And I just know that I won't feel right until I'm actually in there.

I get anxious going to or being in new places but most of my life I've been doing exactly that- kamikazing into new situations so I can get a job, meet new people or just explore. i think most AS's have to do this in order to productively go about their daily lives ...if I let my anxiety of going places control me i'd be in my house literally all day