Aspies with money?

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How often do you get people who want to be friends with you for the sole fact that you have money?


How are you able to pick up on such a factor with aspergers?

I had people who were always nice even though they could not stand me to me because they needed me to help them with their job because they could not hack it and needed me to help them while I am doing my job. One of them bitched to my brother about it while he was sitting at the bar waiting to give me a ride home. My brother looks nothing like me so the idiot spilled the beans to him out of frustration about having to be nice to me. My brother told me what he said right in front of him and the idiot just stood there with his mouth hanging open. Without my help he was fired for being to slow and sloopy.

All NTs have been like this to me since 1977. If not to use me to get something out of me then they have been downright hostile. The other alternative is just being mere acquaintances. Nothing else.

Happens to me a lot. I've learned that if someone is a real friend, they won't ask for help upon first meeting you. A friend is not a government bail-out. The only friends who get to ask for help like that are friends that have known you for at least a year, but preferably about 3 or 4 years.

I think I have learned to spot that in people, thank Goodness. When I was younger, I lost a lot of money from "helping" people, and from lending things to people who didn't take care of them, etc. When I was 18, I bought a brand-new Corvette, thinking I'd get popular. That was dumb, especially since I'm not into sports cars at all. It got me popular alright; with freeloaders! I keep my finances a secret for a long time when I meet new people, and it works better that way. I don't wear clothes that look like someone with assets, and I don't have expensive cars, or an expensive watch. (I don't care about that stuff anyway).

Charles

I never loan money. I have many times given money to friends who need it. But I never expect to be repaid. Saves a lot of headaches.

An NT that I know doesn't like the fact that I have money. Having none of his own, he thinks he has the right to regulate the money I have in the bank. He goes about how much I should have and the rules regarding the amount saved and the benefits cutoff point because of the amount. Recently, I cut him from my life, I hate him. He oozes what is wrong with NT's.

Do I have to put up with NT crap because I am "different"?

With the car I drive, food I eat, and clothes I wear, most people probably think I make a fraction of the money I actually do. I prefer usefulness and a good value over illogical trendy fashion. So of course no one tries to be my friend for money.

nobody gives a crap how much money i have, and if they did care i wouldn't associate with them.

Interestingly someone at work asked me pretty much the same question (I've written a couple of pieces about how NTs tend to overvalue money and how I am more than willing to help friends who are in financial need.)

In the past (when I was at school) this was a problem for me, now though I'm much more careful about who I associate with and most of the people I have offered to give money to when they need it have actually turned down the offer.

As to how to pick it up, I generally don't offer to give money to someone until I've known them for a while and feel I can trust them not to abuse the offer.

I get given a fair amount of money by my parents, unconditionally (cue "spoiled rich kid stereotypes .")

Despite this, I've never had anyone try to be my friend to get money off me, probably because I'm very secretive about what my parents do, and how much they earned (I was taught to never, ever, brag or talk about your financial situation.)

I don't have money. Therefore, I have no friends.

No friends are better than fake friends. You have to learn to spot them.

I have no money, but I'd rather have no friends than fake ones.