Any confident aspies here?

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I want to know if there is such a thing as a confident aspie?

I suppose I am fairly confident. I'm rather aware of my limitations and abilities. I don't think the perception that AS is synonymous with lack of confidence (socially I'm assuming) is correct.

I think I am, somewhat anyways. Why? and in which way do you mean?

Not completely confident, but I can handle myself well enough in most social situations.

Outwardly I probably look fairly confident, I seem to know how to put on that kind of persona. I generally look like I know what I'm doing, because I don't usually take on anything I don't feel I understand well. Inside it can be a different matter. Inner anxieties don't cause me a lot of trouble these days, but that's probably because I've arranged my life to exclude the kind of stuff I tend to worry about.

A lot depends on how you measure it. If you're watching for a reluctance to do anything unusual or risky, you'll see me as not confident. If you're just looking for an outer appearance, you'll see me as confident.

Confidence is a state of mind that has nothing to do with ability. I have some skills that are admired by some but I take it for granted, on the other hand I take great pride and gain confidence by doing simple things others don't think about.

I possess a strange combination of great confidence and great timidity, with little in the middle. I suppose that makes me balanced out in the end. A balanced Aspie. Or a seesaw Aspie. A seesaspie, if you will.

I guess that you could say that I'm confident. I take the bull by the horns. I believe in myself and I wear whatever I want, whether the NTs in my area like it, or not.

Only doubt can build confidence.

If you believe that confidence is a random state of mind and that you think you are a confident person, I'll say you're superstitious.

Confidence, for aspies have to be built from the ground up. The only way to achieve this it to use doubt: whenever you realize something is strange, illogical, odd, interesting, take a second to ask questions and find the good one why it is happening. If you can, make an hypothesis. It is very important to use a significant piece of reality, because it makes your doubts focused and set in a context that may contains answers, don't doubt out of the blue, it's irrelevant and counter productive. And don't worry because the world has not changed while you were thinking.

The more you will practice the more connections between the hypothesis you will make, the more able you will be able to make probability bets, the more comfortable with surprise and mistakes you will be. The more open you will be to change. It will go faster and faster, the system will keep itself healthy and sound and self confidence will emerge from that.

I'm the most doubtful and confident man of the planet earth.

It depends in what situation, if you asked me to skydive or fly a 747, I don't think I could help you. Have an emotional discussion? I'd probably try and wing it. A logical discussion? Absolutely!

I found playing basketball competitively for a few yrs helped my confidence immensely though.

I am! I am nice, I'm quirky enough to be interesting, I'm good-looking, and I'm intelligent. Not going to let that make me stuck up, but I'm also not going to let myself forget that if things ever get rough again. Confidence is a good thing to have.

Maybe the things that I've described about myself have more to do with bravery, than confidence.

Everyone describes meas confident. I am most of the time pretty scared but I do not let scared stop me from doing things.

No, I think we are able to find a deep meaning inside what we love. Ask yourself questions what are the values of what you hold dear, express them in words and use it as the root for your confidence.
You made me read about the Kinks and I understood why I should have known more about them. They are amazing.

I'm very confident in my own abilities, because I've seen that when I approach things the right way, they usually go very well. I know how capable I am; the only question is whether I have the right mental approach at the moment.

Not officially diagnosed as an aspie, so maybe I don't count.

I have lots of confidence. When younger I had no confidence with social situations. But since then I've learned enough to get by and also learned to stop caring about social situations so it doesn't bother me if I screw up.

My whole life I've always been confident in my academic abilities, especially math and computers. I think this helped me. When working in an office doing computer programming, I had the confidence in my tech skills to do a good job and put my ideas out there. This drew people to me for help even if I did give off a socially weird vibe because they knew that I was good at what I did. Through these professional interactions I observed how others behaved and reacted to me, like a zoologist researcher in the bush, and I think that's how I've picked up on enough skills to get by socially.