My Father Died Last Night...

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At 9:52pm after having been visited by family. He went without pain.

He was 82 years old.

He is at peace.

Thank you GOD for the Twelve Steps and for WrongPlanet for helping me to put this all into some perspective.

I am sorry to hear that. My wishes of peace go out to you and your family.

I'm sorry to hear this, Surreal, but at least you had some warning and could arrange yourself with things. And it is good that your father did not suffer much in the end. Things like this are always sad, but I hope you find the support you need and make it through.

I do not know whether this is of any help to you or whether it may sound cynical, but my mother had big issues the first Christmas after my grandfather died and she simply could not imagine spending the holidays at home where everything would have reminded her so much of the person who was missing. If you or your mother feel the same way, maybe you can spend Christmas with your relatives where you will not be reminded so much of your emotional pain.
I am not saying that you should force yourselves to be happy just because it is Christmas. That would be simply wrong and would probably do more harm than good. I think you should give yourselves time to grieve properly. But celebrating Christmas so shortly after losing a loved one will be difficult enough, so I think it may be helpful to ease things for yourselves as much as you can.

May you find some peace during this trying time.

Sorry - my father at 92 is technically still here, but physically not great and with Alzheimer's the one I knew died years ago. It can take a while to get through it - be good to yourself.

I'm sorry... but glad that you are well in yourself, and able to celebrate your Dad's life. God bless you at this difficult time.

I am so sorry to hear that. You have my condolences.

Please accept my condolences, Surreal. It's tough losing a loved one.

DEATH be not proud, though some have called thee
Mighty and dreadfull, for, thou art not so,
For, those, whom thou think'st, thou dost overthrow,
Die not, poore death, nor yet canst thou kill me.
From rest and sleepe, which but thy pictures bee,
Much pleasure, then from thee, much more must flow,
And soonest our best men with thee doe goe,
Rest of their bones, and soules deliverie.
Thou art slave to Fate, Chance, kings, and desperate men,
And dost with poyson, warre, and sicknesse dwell,
And poppie, or charmes can make us sleepe as well,
And better then thy stroake; why swell'st thou then;
One short sleepe past, wee wake eternally,
And death shall be no more; death, thou shalt die.

You seem to be handling this with grace and aplomb. My sympathies go out to you and your family.

Thank you all.

I am disappointed that we will not be making the trip to his hometown as per my mother's request. I would really enjoy spending time with family there. But all is and will be well.

Keep us in your prayers.

I'm sorry about your loss.

Sorry to hear it, Surreal. I think this is two parents lost today.

I hope they go to a better place, and that you don't suffer too much.

My condolences, friend.

My condolences.

Oh dear, my condolences.