Are aspies less affected by death? why?

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Sometimes I do find myself highly affected/sad by death, but usually, I'm surprisingly accepting of it. Like when my grandma died, I love my grandma, she was a huge part of my life especially when I was little, but when she died, I was like one of the only people not crying. Even cousins I didn't think were very nice or would care that much were in tears, but I felt oddly okay, and that made me feel bad. I do miss her though, don't get me wrong, I dream about her often.

I guess it's also because she was old, she was 88 years old, I mean, it sucks we have to die, but 88 is a long life. If someone I loved who was young, or too young to die passed away, I would definitely cry a lot and would take years to feel normal again.

I find that many other aspies I've talked to are overall, more accepting of death than NTs generally are. Is it because we're less sensitive? Or is it more because we just aren't as affected by death? I mean, I'm quite a sensitive person, I cry over things most other men would not cry over, but for some reason, death usually doesn't affect me that much emotionally.

I've been struggling with the death of a British rock icon over the past 4 months. I didn't struggle that same way, when any of my family members passed away. Family members can hurt you and rock stars can't, because they don't know you.

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Dying would definitely leave me dead. So yes, it would affect me.

I guess it would depend on many factors. I see death all the time due to my job, so death is normal to me. I'd been interestedin death since I was a kid. Getting sad about it depends on how well I knew someone, how my mood is at the time, etc. I didn't cry when my grandfather died, but when my stepdad died I was very sad. I've gotten sad when some of my patients died but not so much others. It just depends sometimes.

yes me too.
when my aunt died of cancer, I was sad, but not as much as the others.
But when my dogs died, it was a drama. I couln't eat, sleep or talk for days, every time I opened my mouth I started crying.
But if aunts or uncles die I'm sad, but way less than the others.
But if my mother only has a cold, I'm sad, because she is the most important person in my life.

So it depends on who died, but if the person is not very very close to me, it affects me less.

When my dad died, I didn't cry until about a year or two later, when I wanted his criticism on an art project.

It depends on the person who has died. If the person has treated me well over the years and did not talk much shite. If they did or treated me like I was the new Black then I would not be affected at all. I mourn more for a dead animal such as a dog,cat etc than I would for a human.

IF I was significantly attached to the person who died, I normally have no reaction at first, but I grieve in my own way later when I begin to actually process the loss.

If I have no attachment to someone, I hardly care.

AS statistically suffer more often from depression and the suicide rates are higher.
I guess death just isn't a big deal, I don't have much emotional attachment to the subject.

If it's someone I was very close to, then it definitely affects me very badly. I've only had two deaths in my life that affected me greatly. The one that affected me the most was three years ago when my cat died. It was sudden & unexpected & I was & still am, absolutely devastated. I took his death harder than the death of any human being I've ever known. The only other death that affected me profoundly was the death of my great aunt, who was more like a grandmother to me, when I was four. I don't think that would have been as bad if I hadn't been taken to her funeral. I was fine with it until I saw her lying in the coffin. I had been told she was "with Jesus in heaven" & that made sense to me at that age & I was fine with it. But then, to see her lying there in that coffin after having been told she was in heaven was incredibly hard for me to deal with & I didn't understand it. It wasn't her death that upset me so much as the contradictory messages of her being in heaven & then me seeing her lying there in the coffin, obviously not in heaven.

My mother was very, very ill this past year. She's finally doing much better, but her health can change at any moment. I was & still am terrified she's going to die soon. I know her death will be the worst thing to ever happen to me & I know I won't be able to handle it.

Though most deaths don't affect me much, sometimes not at all, some affect me greatly, depending on who they are & how well I know them.

as for deaths, been around a few, but the only ones that had any affect on me were pets, especially my cat of 18 years when it died.