hate it when people talk to u like your 2 bc of AS??

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I hate when people my age or even younger talk down to me like im 2. cause i have AS anyone else expeirence this???

Mmm..... I think this happened once to me. The person didn't really understand AS and I think she interpreted 'disability' wrong. She started talking to me really slowly and tried to not say much at any one time, and she was acting overly nice. I don't recall if I mockingly talked back to her the same way, but I'm sure I felt like doing that. lol

I once told someone I have HFA. Her demeanor completely changed. She asked if I was ok to catch the bus on my own and walked me to the bus stop. She seemed really worried that I wouldn't be able to cope. Thing is, I know she wouldn't have thought twice about it had I not told her of me being autistic....

Generally speaking, it is probably best to avoid telling people that you are Aspergers or Autistic, unless they already know what it is (and reasonably accurately so), or are willing to learn about it. Otherwise their interpretation is that you have some kind of unknown disability.

My Sister does that to me, all the time and she's three years younger than I am. It really gets on my nerve. Once it was Cheque Day and my Parents were out of town. My Sister drove me to the Bank, and I wanted to go into the Electronics Store. She told me that she didn't want to go in there. I've told her that I could go into the store and she could wait for me, outside the door. I've had to convince her, three times, before she was willing to give in. I am NOT Rain Man and I'm a very strong and aware Individual. It seems like I'm celebrating "Family Grudge Week", but I'm not usually this bitter.

I feel like I'm treated like a kid sometimes. Like asking - "Did you eat someting today, what did you eat". Or acting like certain projects are too much responsibility for me - like driving a long distance or in heavy traffic. Of course that is partly true, but it is not a confidence booster to be reminded of it.

Not particularly with AS, but I also have a history of depressive illness, and that often provokes in people an equivalent assessment to mental incompetence.

A very good psychiatrist I once had used me on a couple of his students who were showing that tendency. Oh, it was fun to see their shock as I took their patronising tones and attitudes in their assigned "assessment" of me, and then out-thought, out spoke and out- analysed them four different ways.

But although that can be very satisfying, it's not always the best strategic move.

hehe, that sounds like fun.

i hate it when people think i am stupid.

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That's happened to me often in my life, especially before being formally diagnosed with AS. I avoid those people and I even quit volunteering at a school for children with disabilities because I was talked down to as I went to this place for preschool. Just because I have a mild disability doesn't mean that I'm mentally ret*d, my IQ is actually of above average intellegence. This is a reason I don't disclose my having Asperger's with people, I hate being treated as if I'm the female equivalent of Rain Man.

Yes, and I even hate it when I do it to others. Which I do, despite knowing better, but prejudices run deep.

I once used to play chess with someone with motor neurone disease. He couldn't really speak, and drooled constantly. And beat me two games out of three, though I played for my university.

Even on the net, I have a leaning against, tend to mark down in value, people who can't or won't type in decently rendered English. It's a bad as a thick accent or marked dialect. Yes, it's not a safe evaluation and yes, I try to work around it, but it's there.

How much more for those who aren't even aware of the bias built into preconceptions?