Depressed over random circumstances in life

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So I've been trying SSRIs etc. for a while, not because I'm innately depressed (clinical depression, I believe it's called?) but because I'm naturally depressed due to circumstances in my life. The kind of circumstances that make you regret your whole life, because they aren't inevitable, if only your parents weren't such ret*d bastards. Every single major problem in my life could have been avoided, no, totally transformed into an opportunity, if only my parents helped me (as supposedly required by evolution...) rather than f****d me up. No, they actually created most of my problems, and made sure I have as many difficulties in life as possible, and metaphorically lamed me thoroughly, and since I didn't have the strength to resist (heck, it would be easier to overcome a crazed dictator than your own twisted parents, since by nature you're required to rely on them) I failed, and I fail now again, even after leaving them the hell behind. I'm but left all alone and damaged, and I can't help but wallow in what could have been.

I imagine, I could have had a great life... instead of being destroyed, my mind could have probably been above average, and I could at least feel fulfilled, and not incredibly frustrated like I am now, unable to accomplish things I feel I should have done. So near and yet so far.

I'm barely accomplished online, because, even here, I founder. I'm like a typically lifeless geek, except I can't even live in my mother's basement, as geeks are infamous for, since even that bit is much worse for me than the average failed hippie. So what if I can understand most concepts I read about? So what if I try, again and again, only to be told that I can never give up, even though the same speaker is working a whole system against me? I have much perseverance, because if I didn't I would have just committed suicide long before I could escape the frenzied clutches of those assigned to me by fate, but would it not be illogical and, by definition, stupid if I keep persisting in a useless world as this is?

And because of all that, the pharmaceutical industry is kindly pocketing huge amounts of coerced money. Thanks, you rock!

The best revenge on sh***y people in your life is to succeed when they expect you to fail. Nothing will drive them more crazy.

SSRI's did nothing for me. I switched to Cymbalta (an SNRI) and it made all the difference about four years ago. Ask your doctor about it.

Even if it's your own parents? And where would one get the motivation to succeed when one had a sh***y start in life in the first place? (Sometimes I try to think which genes went awry...)

@markko
I tried Effexor once, I thought it might have been better than the myriad of SSRIs, but still: do you believe all these medication work if you're not clinically depressed? (Only due to circumstances...)

Yes... that's me.

It's never too late to be happy. It's never too late to start working the kinks out of your psychology. You don't seem very old, I guess... 20s?

There's an old cliché about parents and f*****g you up. Now you're free of them, you can start rebuilding yourself with gusto. May you make effective and expedient repairs.

You do have a choice about giving your money to the pharma sector. I recommend meditation in almost every post I make on this forum, and this one is no exception.

Especially if it is ones own parents. If you can get angry about it, that gives motiviation. It can be enough steam to get you going. I have always found that I do my best when someone wants me to fail, because I want to prove them wrong. Just prove to yourself that you are better than them. That you wouldnt do to others what has been done to you. I think they call it breaking the chain.