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I am 21 and I am on the spectrum i think. i have very poor impulse control problesm and every night when my parents come back from work i get the urge to rant at them about my problems.

its become a proper issue now and its like i cannot control my urges to talk to my parents about the world in general and my issues becasue it feels like if i hold it inside i will implode.

any advice becasue its a real problem.

Hmm.... for starters, explain to them a little about the ranting problem that you are going through, that way they will at least understand what is going on. Since they are your parents, they should be understanding and that way the relationship between ya will not get worse. Then take it from there to therapy.

Good luck.

Well this has been an ongiong problem for 7 years now. there so sick and tired of me that they just don't want to even here my explanation for the ranting.

maybe right letters to yourself in which you rant.

That might ventilate your anger and force you organize your thoughts.

Then when you talk to you parents it will be the ten minute ghist of the story said in a calm voice instead two hours of discombobulated and repeative screaming.

Maybe you could try writing about your problems in a journal. Or if you need another person to listen to you, then you might want to think about counseling.

Not enough information.

Rants could be because you are on the spectrum. Or you could be BPD, Schizophrenic, Bi-polar, or lots of other things.

Or you could be nothing more than a spoiled brat.

Since you seemed concerned and a spoiled brat wouldn't care enough to ask, the last one is probably not the case. But you get my point.

Well my parents described me as a brat a few days ago after another rant. i was spoilt ALOT as a child and never grounded or punished by my parents which might have ret*d my growth a littel bit.

To frank i have pushed away my friends through my immoral behaviour. 3 years ago my friends used to love hanging around with me.

i am kinda in a constant of anger about the injustices of the world and trying to understand peoples belifes ideas etc which is why i act the way i do sometimes and take out my insecurties on my parents.

What is starting to happen is becasue i have been acting so evil to my family other people can pick it up, even my friends can pick up bad vibes from me now.

I might need to see a doc about this.

Writing my feelings down on paper helps me, and I also come here to rant.

It seems like you're being awfully hard on yourself. Ranting is not evil or immoral. Are you sure you've done something that bad?

I think maybe because of all the years of being horrible not only to my paretns but at school as well it mike me seem cold, distant and aloof in person.

to be honest as well i am quite vindictive.

Remember that you're responsible for your own behaviour. If you're unhappy with the way you're acting, you can try to change. And distant and aloof doesn't equal horrible. You can be distant and still a nice guy. Try to get some help, I guess. Sound like you're being very hard on yourself.

its just that i am so self absorbed and act so hypersensitive around other people nowadays that i am pushing them away.

even my regular hairdresser who i have known for years thought there was something wrong with me earlier today.

How does "anger about the injustices of the world", etc., translate into "immoral behavior"?



Does that mean you are angry about injustices directed towards you personally, or injustices in general, or both? I'm not being dense here (hopefully)--just trying to understand exactly what you are saying.

Also, feel free to rant here or, if you'd rather it not be that public, PM me. I can't promise I'll have adequate responses, but I will listen/read.

Take care.

"Does that mean you are angry about injustices directed towards you personally, or injustices in general, or both? I'm not being dense here (hopefully)--just trying to understand exactly what you are saying. "

I am angry and fustrated about all of them. Not so much when i was in my mid teens but now in my early 20's i am have become more aware.


When I say immoral behaviour i mean me being withdrawn around people i used to love talking to and being friendly with when i was 18 and being diliberatly unfriendly and having an agressive attitude towards friends and family.

Okay, so you're p***ed about a lot of things. Truthfully, I don't blame you. Studying Criminal Justice has, sadly, only reaffirmed that we as a society are sorely lacking in the "justice" area.

How have others treated you throughout your life? If it's been c***py, maybe you've just had ENOUGH.

"Deliberately unfriendly" and "aggressive"--is this behavior you want to stop?

Also, how are these friends/family treating you? Have they done anything in the last few years to warrant this? (Yes, this is a real question. You seem to be blaming yourself for all of this--might that not be justified?)

Yeah i have had a lot of bad experience throughout my life with people so no wonder i feel kinda bitter.

i personally wish i could change my distant behvaiour maybe in time i will improve. i dunno i have just become more sensitive to how people treat me that it makes me withdrawn. Invetibly other people are realising that i am a bit of a weirdo or outcast and i do not really blame them.

my friends don't really seem to enjoy my company anymore because i probably act too serious and am no fun anymore.