Are you considered naive by others (& trust people easil

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Does everyone think that you're very naive for the most part?
Or child-like in your behavior or mannerisms?
Get tricked by others easily and nearly put yourself into a dangerous situation because you cant see people's ulterior motives?

I feel very naive in this world. I hate hearing about sexual things and it's almost disturbing. Could be because i'm rather asexual.....

I've almost been kidnapped before because i took a ride from a stranger(male).. and i didn't expect anything bad about it.

when i see a hitchhiker on the side of the road, I would pick them up.... but lately i have realized my mis-judgement of people and so I have to tell myself that it is a bad idea even though i don't feel that way.
I constantly put myself into situations that I don't see as dangerous, but i end up getting hurt out of it...for instance....Making friends with strangers to be polite and the stranger taking advantage of me/the situation.

i always see everyone in a good light until it proves me wrong....and it gets me into trouble.. anyone else have this problem?

Yes, and I hate myself everyday for it.

Yes. And I can relate to almost everything you said.

And I always say this too: I always see everyone in a good light until it proves me wrong....

my usual "formula" is: I always think everyone is good ... and then some of them prove me wrong, I said this to a friend only a few days ago. I try to be less naive tho, but still its not easy. sigh

There was a time when I was just about as naive as that, and although I have come a long way from then, I still have a long way to go. Still a lot of ground to make up before I'd be considered not naive.

I've gotten myself into a lot of predicaments and bad situations... and i feel bad for it, and i couldn't ever explain to myself why it kept happing over and over again.

"This kind of problem has followed me my whole life" I've said on multiple occasions.... I cant even see when guys are attracted to me and other people have to literally tell me if someone likes me and is flirting.

I've always had male friends so I just go hang out with them thinking I was one of the boys but I get into situations where others say, "oh she must have know, she was asking for it."

Yes, "of course!" (...I should say).

I understand every single thing you have described and I have lived almost all of them.
I am too naive. And I think that NTs look at us as we were idiot or dumb sometimes. So, they believe they can play with us like puppets, you know, pulling strings etc...
Unfortunately, I've been had a lot of times!
"I always see everyone in a good light until it proves me wrong.... ". I have nothing to add about that, I totally agree with you

Take care

I'm also very naive, and everything that you've said about yourself, describes me. The only difference is that I haven't been in many dangerous situations. I think it's quite cute and charming.

It is amazing how some of them seem to know instinctively that we are naive, I don't know if it shows in our face or what, but sometimes I have wondered, why me? why? what did I do or say that brought that up

You'll grow out of the naivity. Unfortunately, it doesn't happen until you're old enough to have grandkids.

Exactly, that's one of my "eternal social questions"...

on the contrary, I really only see the grander ulterior motives. Whenever someone asks something of me or starts a conversation with me, I immediately think of several explanations as to why.
It's more of a disposition(personality) thing then an Asperger's thing, but maybe the syndrome reinforces that disposition. Ionno.

Sometimes yes and sometimes no. Sometimes a am way too trusting and I get burned. And sometimes I am just the opposite and can't form any trust with people that mean me no harm. The problem is that I can't really tell the difference between the good guys and the bad guys unless there is a gun involved.

Maybe you were taught to not trust people when you were young? I've been growing up in a small town in the mountains (300 people) and you can trust everyone. I started getting into these predicaments when I moved to the city where my university is at.

Because I am very aware of what has happened to me repeatedly, I don't trust people as much because I've trained myself to reanalyze everything.

That is what i've started doing now.

I'm not known for being naive, in fact I have trouble hiding my extreme cynicism from people, and often prefer the company of other cynics, because they're less likely to feel dragged down by the way I see scams and corruption everywhere.

But there's also something very childlike in my outlook, always has been. And I've made a few shockingly naive mistakes......biggest one was to somehow become the partner of an alcoholic nymphomaniac - I had all the information I needed to work out what was going on, but I just didn't seem to notice till it was too late. I was about 27 at the time. Before that I got used a couple of times. Never been fooled since though.

I think the problem's still there - I don't really know how to estimate how safe or dangerous people are - but by taking up an extremely guarded and suspicious attitude, I can get by, at the expense of never knowing the joys of trusting without hard evidence. Some Aspie traits are like that with me - e.g. my solution to my habit of talking past the point is to keep silent. Take the extreme position and you won't have to use any discrimination skills.

I've also learned to hide my untrusting nature, because it's not popular. People see it as an insult, as if I'm calling them corrupt, so I make excuses, or I'll nod along with them even though I'm thinking "that sounds like baloney." It's not that I really think they're bound to be dishonest. I'm erring on the safe side, and I know I'm erring (i.e. making a mistake).

Some people think I am but I don't think I am.

I don't ever give out money to strangers (except coins) and I don't pick up hitch hikers or take home any strangers.

I used to be very naive but thanks to being taken advantage of so many times, I have lost trust in lot of people. I think that is why I am selfish now and don't even help out. Heck some woman tried to give me her food stamp card but her wanting forty bucks is what stopped me. Then my husband told me what she was doing is illegal. Yeah just never take any offers like that.

I was used by some guy on the Nsider2 forum. He pretended to be my friend just to get something out of me and then when I said no, I never heard from him again. I also think the stuff he said about himself may have all been lies just to relate to me and to pretend we had things in common. Sometimes people do that to use you. I don't think I even want to befriend others there again and I haven't been to that forum since March because it makes me sick seeing his posts.

I don't trust anybody, if im in public I like to be in a spot where I can see everyone, I mean im naive to an extent becuase I never trust anyone completly yet if I encounter someone that is seemingly kind and caring I instantly imagine we will be the best of friends forever.