To be brutally honest.

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Alright I have to say this, because quite frankly, part of me will die in side, if I am not honest.

So what I'm about to say is coming from my personal experience on this site and IRL.

I've thought about saying this for quite a while but something was holding me back, but quite frankly at this point I cannot pretend.

In all fairness I realize that we've all been given a tough hand in life, but this alone cannot allow me to actively accept defeat.

My personal opinion is that many on this site have a severe problem with complaining, seeking out negativity, and in general feeling sorry for themselves.

Again I'm not saying this to be hurtful, I'm saying this, because it'd be immoral for me to withhold this opinion from you, as it's something I believe strongly.

Again I'm not saying you shouldn't voice your hurt, pretend to happy when your not, or to ignore your personal issues, what I am saying is if you seriously wanna improve your life in any shape or form, you have to acknowledge this severe problem that this site faces.

And how do you propose that we address this issue hmm?

Was a thread started so the OP can complain about the complaining on this forum?

I think you have yet to establish whether this is actually a severe problem rather than a personal peeve.

one should not begrudge people their greviances.

Exactly. Most of the stuff I discuss here is so I don't have to discuss it anywhere else. Most of the stuff here is so I can put it into words to discuss it in therapy. If I had no outlet for this, I'd be all over the place.

Overall, having WP as an outlet has actually made it easier for me to improve my daily functioning. I can't speak for anyone else, but that's what I get out of it.

Or we only reveal a fraction of our real problems on Wrongplanet.

IMO part of the problem is the nature of the forums. Most are organized to discuss our problems (ie L&D, Social Skills and Making Friends, General Autism Discussion...) It's hard to discuss positive aspects of your life on some of these forums because it seems insensitive

alex could add a "positive" forum but how to keep it from degenerating into a bragfest?

Some of us, myself included, treasure having a place where we can be ourselves. To mention the things that bother us or get to us, to seek help or comfort in the ethereal arms of a stranger over the internet. To be able to have someone say "yeah, that happens to me to" or to get advice from people that share a collective understanding is worth more than mountain of gold to many of us.

At no other place could I be Joseph Ridgeson; I would have to be the simulation that I put on in order to get through life. To be able to have a place where I can safely express my own thoughts and feelings or read about those that are also seeking such a place is truly fantastic,

To complain about some of the more negative aspects that the people disclose on these forums is to equate those issues with something that the person needs to cope with on their own, which is exactly what shouldn't be done in many cases.

Ogre.