NTs can be very weird sometimes

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NTs can be weird. Very weird.

I had one say "You are really good right, you are thinner than last time". I had actually gained 3 pounds since the last time that person had seen me. (Which was 8 months ago) I do not gain or lose wait easily at all so obviously it was clothes I was wearing or maybe she forgot what I looked like. To me, this is just a weird comment and a bit insulting to tell you the truth, because the person is implying that you were overweight before. I said "Really? I haven't lost any weight since last time, maybe it's my clothes" she was like "Yeah, I guess so". I can eat like just candies and sweets for a year and only gain like 10 pounds. I can starve myself for a month and only lose 3 pounds, so you can see that I don't gain or lose wait very easily.

Also, I went to a Christmas party last night at a family member's house. They live by the water and have a balcony that looks out at the water. There were about 6 people that I hardly knew standing under this glass covered area because it was raining. I was like the only one not standing under the glass. People were like "Sweetheart, you need to stand under the glass". I really, really, really, really didn't want to stand under the glass because it was really crowded under there and would have felt like I had no choice of where to stand. I am not afraid of water, but I do not stand really close to the edge of the balcony. I was wearing a raincoat and don't understand why it was a problem that I was not gathered around trying to stay dry. I mean yeah, sure, they were concerned, but it's just odd to me that's all.

Anyone else ever be the victim of weird NTs things?

All NTs think they are the Wicked Witch of the West when the skies open up. I haven't melted yet, and I won't anytime soon, since my body is 70% water or something.

This one guy I went college with was at a bar four years later, and he said I looked great. He told me I looked great 3 times, and then I told him that I'm the same height and weight and awesome that I was before. He acknowledged that it was true, and then I proceeded to mock him in front of his girlfriend and all his friends, and everyone thought it was funny. He said he was going to kill me in between fits of laughter.

So, I am not a victim of NT oddities. They are victims of their own ignorance.

You can get thinner without the number going down on the scale. It's muscle weight. Sometimes people get thinner and gain muscle so the number stays the same on the scale.

My husband has lost 30 lbs over the last three years and it looks like he has lost more than that so people tell him he has lost tons of weight. Uh 30 lbs isn't much in three years.

I have been told I have gotten skinnier despite the number being higher up on the scale and I get told again sometimes I have lost weight. No I have gone up 13 lbs. But I think it's just the baby weight I have gained and maybe muscle. I may have gained and lost weight and the number just stayed the same because it was baby I was gaining.

People seem to assume the number has gone down on the scale when you have gotten thinner. I tend to make that assumption when someone looks thinner. I won't have a clue if they have gone up a few pounds or stayed the same or didn't go down much.

Well this is an example of how NTs can say things too without meaning to imply things. They think they are giving you a compliment or just making a comment and they don't even realize it might offend or will. Hey we do these things all the time and lot of people think we're weird.

So I don't think it's weird to tell someone they lost weight if they look thinner or have gotten thinner. If someone says you have lost weight, you have probably gotten thinner and I take it as a compliment. Hey I want to be thin and no matter how thin I get, I keep thinking I look fat. I will never be a size 0 so I accept that.

Heck couple weeks ago, my mom told me I had no butt anymore and it was gone. I told her it's still there but it's just the pants that are doing it making it look flat. It did look in the photo I had a flat butt and it no longer stuck out. So it wasn't weird at all she said it, the pants just tricked her.

I had a relative tell me that my goatee makes me look older, and she apparently meant this as a compliment. I had to struggle to keep myself from saying "YOU NEVER SAY THAT TO A PERSON OVER THIRTY, YOU GODDAMN REDNECK MORON!"

i hate the weight thing too, my farrier (the guys who puts shoes on my horse) says it quite often and yeah, same thing, i havent gained or lost any weight?

I'm always tempted to ask 'was I fat before?' when someone says I look thinner.

I'm not sure if this relates but last night my mum and her friend were chatting after midnight while I struggled to sleep through it.
Shouldn't they know that type of behaviour is inconsiderate?
So this morning I marched and clanged around the house and played my music loud. Immature I know but who the f*** chats that early in the morning while a person is trying to sleep?

I question a lot of so called normality. Like the kids who suddenly break out singing at random times while walking down the hall. Or people screaming really loud in the hallway for no apparent reason. Or my mom gong all psychotic when our dogs act up. And so forth.

Several years ago I took walks everyday. The neighbor commented on me losing weight. Normal behaviour for an autistic is not understood; people need to twist it into something they understand. I assume most people only go for walks to stay fit or lose weight.

Some comments I've gotten in the past -
from a sales clerk at a shoe store when I picked up a pair of shoes to look at them - "Those shoes aren't on sale" - did I look like I couldn't afford to pay full price for them?
from someone when I was 9 months pregnant - "It's hard to find nice maternity clothes, isn't it?"
from an acquaintance - "You should really get your haircut, _____ always looks good and she has a similar hair type to yours"

Arrrgh, I HATE it when people tell me I should wear certain things or cut my hair certain ways. I try to look precisely how *I* want to look, and I have zero respect for the Joan Rivers way of life.

Last January, this lady from my church came over to my house to teach my mom, neighbor, and I how to cut and sew plastic grocery bags to make into mats for the homeless. She had us write our names down on a piece of paper so she would know who was there. I wrote my name and she read it wrong and preceded to critizice me about my penmanship and how I needed to write more legably. Mind you that I am on medication that corrects my penmanship and that is the best that I can write.
I don't know why NT's feel they are entitled to critize others, much less the disabled.

Comments I hate getting are "You are so skinny" "You're very skinny" and being told I am too skinny or underweight.

It makes me feel like I am meant to be fat and it makes me want to fight myself even more to stay thin. There are people out there who are thinner than me and if I am underweight, then I was meant to be fat. I don't think I am underweight at all or else I be skin and bones and maybe fit into a size 3 or a size 0, I would look like I was from concentration camp. I'd probably leave serious damage to my body if I got that skinny because I basically ate myself alive. I have heard of people having heart conditions or not being able to have kids because their eating disorders did that damage and your heart is a muscle, so is your uterus. I would just have to starve myself and never eat at all every day to get that skinny and that can really hurt me and plus I get sick to my stomach when I don't eat. I feel like vomiting when I am so hungry so I wonder how people with eating disorders go through that without eating.
Heck that's why I don't even tell people they are so skinny because it make me a hypocrite if I say that.

I also hate being told how to eat like "Beth slow down" and I move to another table if I get that harassment and they don't shut up.

One thing that drives me utterly batty (there's lots of things... this is just one of them) is people who whistle tunes or sing to themselves while they are working. Or else people who play music loud enough so everyone else can "enjoy" it too.

I am very sensitive to sounds although I try to tune most of it out. But there is a guy at work who whistles any tune that happens to float through his head. He's a nice enough guy otherwise, but this makes me want to strangle him. This sort of thing completely destroys my concentration. Luckily I have a sound proof door on my office.