Has anyone els delt with this ?

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My name is Connor Murray I'm 17 years old and my socail life has been wishwashey like most people here. But one thing that bothers me is that I will be getting along with a person I just meet with greatly but literaly overnight they turn on me and don't want to talk to me anymore. People say I'm overreacting and most likely something was bothering them. But the thing is the seem not to get over that thing that is bothering them and get along with other people greatly and just cast me aside. I personally belive only people on the spectrum would understand what I'm going through. I'm I right ? Have you had similar experiences ?

I'm quite familiar with this phenomenon. One day things are great, the next day I've apparently done something wrong, I don't know what I did wrong, and I never learn what I did wrong, because whomever it was does not speak to me anymore.

It can be a very frustrating situation to find yourself in, mostly because you just don't have a clue what you did wrong in the first place. Be open to the idea of having to move on without ever receiving answers or closure, because most likely that is the best you can expect. But do not let it bother you or "depress" you. Just move on as gracefully as you can. Concentrate on other friendships, your special interests, hobbies, etc. Fill the gap with something to keep yourself going. And in the future if Person X who mysteriously turned on you, should show up in your life again offering apologies or communication, that's great. Just don't count on it.

I'll have to disagree with Druid, in the sense that you cannot fill a hole by replacing it with something. You have to fill that hole by actually letting that hole heal. I have experienced what you describe many times in my life. Its a vicious cycle of the anxiety of doing everything right and you make one mistake in that one instance.
Sometimes people aren't real friends. I think the real thing is to find people who are truly friends. People who can accept the flaws that you carry. Because being flawed is what makes you perfect. You'll never understand what you did wrong, but you can fix the problem by finding people who don't care when you do something wrong or they talk to you about it. These are real friends. People willing to talk. And I know it will seem like forever until you find those friends. But sometimes the greatest things come to us when we wait patiently.

Yeah, if people won't tell you what's wrong, just forget about it. It's not your fault; they're the ones who broke the relationship.