Spending too much time with NT's

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I find I get really depressed if I spend too much time with NT's. For example, after working I am tired and depressed, and usually come on here to remind myself that being AS is "ok".

I think it's because being around NTs is like someone holding a mirror up, showing me how different I am to everyone else. I don't necessarily mean obvious differences, but differences in how I think, etc. It makes me depressed when I see them all getting on well together and I am left on my own. The thing is when I am in my room alone, I feel fine, it's just when I am around NTs that I get depressed.

I hate working long shifts, or working too many days in a row, because it's really draining. I only work part-time, and I'm contracted for one day a week, although I usually do some overtime too. If I refuse to do too much overtime, people may think I'm lazy or don't like my job, which isn't my dream job but it's ok. However, it's really because of how stressful emotionally it is being around lots of normal people.

I'm worried that I will never be able to work full time, and be happy, because of this. But maybe if I had a job in something I love, like science, I would meet more like minded people. While still NT, maybe they'd be easier to get on with.

I understand. I can get that way even if I talk to them online. I need to take a break and usually find myself on WP.
I wish I could offer a solution. All I know is that forcing yourself to do something that causes you stress doesn't end well.

maybe you need a job that you can do from your room, like data entry or something.

I get irritated and flip out sometimes if I'm around NTs too much. One on one with a single NT isn't bad but in number's they're intolerable. We must execute the final solution.

You should come and work in a technical field like hard core computer networking. Theres a mixed bag of personalities but definitely a few people I reckon with undiagnosed ASD on my floor.

Well 98% of Earth's population are NT's I think, so I have spent my entire life with them, but who knows, I may have met people with Asperger's; they just haven't said about it, like I've never said about it. And when I come home from College depressed and tired, I feel glad that I'm not like the rest of them (the ones I don't like anyway):)

I don't know about NTs specifically, but in general I end up feeling depressed and tired (and overstimulated) when I've been around people for any length of time. The only thing that really helps is a) quiet and b) being alone.

If I'm around too many people for too long of a period, I can feel depressed. Take me away from WP and the Internet for 6 hours and put me in a crowded room of people, and than you have a recipe for DISASTER. I also find that when some NT girl who had a lot of mental health problems kept keeping me away from my apartment which is my safe place on the nights when I don't go out with my two best friends, I got so depressed and sick, that I had to spend a week at my parent's place last fall.

Huh. As someone above stated, 98%? Dang...
I mean I started working at a small gift shop and that requires me to have the top social skills like knowing what to say to people, when to say it, how to say it. lol it sounds like every day for anyone else but this is more forced and not natural and therefore much more difficult.
Maybe as also aforementioned, you could start work in a more *ahem* aspie-related field? ie engineering, comp, idk what most do, quite honestly. But I'm getting into film. In terms of production that's something you could get into xD Sorry I have very few suggestions

Im doing a degree in biomedical science, is this a good field for aspies?

I don't have problems spending time with people in general, as long as the emotions aren't going too flamboiyant and the hysteria takes hold of peoples' brains.