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Peko
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25 Dec 2010, 1:56 pm

One of my previous posts involves an issue w/ if/how to keep my family/social lives separate. My parents just brought up inviting one of guy friends to dinner which is a big jump considering how they used to act when it came to me having male friends. Is their a way to determine if the jump is too extreme or if I'm reading too much into the situation? :?


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26 Dec 2010, 8:27 pm

just a guess but perhaps they wont to "interrogate" (find out what he is like) him. again just a guess.


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27 Dec 2010, 7:46 am

My parents are confusing and they're very unpredictable. My mum in particular. I had a taste of her unpredictability going into summer ths June. If I was unwilling to change with the times before, I'm now living in a time warp due to my aspie 60s Mod stubborness.


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27 Dec 2010, 9:52 am

Speaking as a parent - if my 12 year old daughter brings home an 18 year old guy friend, there would be freaking out all around.

If my 18 year old daughter brings home a 24 year old guy friend, there might or might not be freaking out.

If my 24 year old daughter brings home a 30 year old guy friend, then it's likely no freaking out will occur.

The point is that there is no rule book so what appears to be confusing inconsistency may simply be differences in context. The consistency in all three cases above is not the guy friend or his age, but that my concern for my daughter's welfare is invariant. How that concern is expressed is highly dependent on the circumstances.


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