Social Anxiety Problems

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It seems that Ive have had social anxiety all my life. I will this type of obsessive anxiety problems. I often think that theirs things going wrong with friendships when so often theres nothing wrong. So often times, I will sense something that is not their and I'll either address the person about it or sorta withdraw from the friendship. In many ways Ive gotten down many of the basic social skills that is capable of being trained in an aspie. What I dont understand is actually when you get into the relationship, when problems crop up in knowing how to deal with that problem. I can know what is happening in a situation but I dont understand what it means sometimes. Ive been rather obessed with the fear of being creepy. I dont think I am, theres just a lot of subtle things that I could potential exhibit that is "creepy". Somehow Ive never managed to master these anxiety problems. In general I think I was born anxious, I get stressed as hell when it comes to school work. Somehow social anxiety problems bother me more then work anxiety. Anti-depressants kinda work but I wanna stay off of them. I think Im just writing this as a rant. I'll sometimes just get really fustrated with myself. To realize, nothing is going on, its all in my head. I wish my anxiety would go away at this point.

I battle with a bit of social anxiety. I have to get a voice in my head that goes against the anxious thoughts. Stuff like 'That's not true' or 'No they don't think that - who cares about them anyway?'
The most affective one is when I say that I'm not likely to meet that person again.

Though you might need a bit more help than that. Have you tried cognitive behavioral therapy? I read a book on that and it helped a lot. It puts names on your anxious thoughts which are usually false and helps you come up with alternative positive thoughts. Then it gets you to do little tasks to see if it's working.

I dont really get anxiety so much with meeting strangers cause like u said Im not likely to meet that person again so it doesnt matter. I think Ive mastered much of the anxiety with acquaintances because I have the basic greetings, small talk down. Now its with friends, I become recently fixated on one of my "goals", to have a decent group of friends who I can constantly call up and hangout with a lot. I get a lotta anxiety when knowing the levels of whats appropriate to contact them and how much is too much? Ive never tried Cognitive Behaavioral therapy but I guess I could try get a book on it.

There are drugs that you can be prescribed that alleviate some of it. I've seen people completely changed by them because it shuts off whatever short-circuit was going on in the brain that caused the anxiety.

I've been tempted to ask my physician about trying them but I really cant risk having that stuff on my medical record atm .

Diazepam (Valium) is very helpful for Social Anxiety. It works in about half an hour and lasts for about 4 hours if you take a decent dose. However, you'll need a prescription from your GP or Psychiatrist.

I think my social anxiety is what caused my blood pressure to be so frigging high. Ever since I have been laid off I have not been forced to be around people I do not like being around ie..co-workers and my blood pressure has been great. My high blood pressure has caused me to have an enlarged heart, 80% kidney function, and congestive heart failure. I avoid crowds of people for health reasons and not like what my friends accuse me off. and that is being an @sshole.