Tooh the aspie test....now what

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I have been researching Aspergers for the past few months.Met someone who was DXed and became curious and now feel like I've finnally found a piece of the puzzle that has been my life.I took a test from a link on here and scored 163/200 but dont know how accurite these tests are...had to answer..."dont know" to many because I have a hard time judging how others perceive me....if I cant read social ques how can I know how others perceive me?

Anyway, now I feel like I've hit a deadend....I am 42 and dont know where to go to be DXed or if I should even bother.Yet, I still feel this need to understand myself and wont to make sure I'm not deluding mysself....like my life-long belief that I was an alian and someday the people from my planet would come and take me home. OK....beam me up ,already.....had enough of this crap, done alot of research on human nature and deduced they are very strange...so,come get me...

I live in Minneapolis,MN...so if anybody has any information about local "therapist" who are actually informed and empathetic to aspergers I would really appriciate it...I haven't seen a "therapist" for 15 years and am functioning...ie...no longer homeless,drinking,self abusing, but I think I am have potential that is going untapped do to aspie traits and not lack of intelligence.I want more from my life.I'm not looking for a "cure".....just some guidance in how to be myself and still function at my best in an NT dominated world...

http://www.aspergers.com/asplist.htm

Ring someone on this list and ask them if they know someone where you live.

I don't see any point getting a formal dx. I think even if I got one, some people wouldn't believe me. More just wouldn't know what I was talking about. And some, thanks Dr Phil, would think I have uncontrollable temper tantrums all day.

But if you think talking about stuff that is holding you back would help, find a psychologist who specialises in Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) to help you. What I have learned is that talking about how I was treated as a child - isn't really going to help me now. I can unlearn some of the "life decisions" I made then but identifying when I made the decision and why, isn't really helpful. I just need to know it's holding me back now, It isn't appropriate now, I can make a new decision. First trick is catching it in action. CBT Psych can teach you how (pay attention to the automatic thoughts that pop into your head when you think about something stressful). Try to write them down and question the appropriateness and validity of each one.

Holy c***! That is PRECISELY how I was at school! I harboured this secret fantasy that I was an alien who had been accidentally left on this srange planet where no-one could tell by LOOKING at me that I wasn';t human, but everyone could tell instinctively and so picked on me.

Well, in feeling like that, join the club! You are no longer alone!! !! (and that's one of the things I found about coming here....things I thought were weird odd "me-isms" well, other people knew how I felt because they did/had these same things!)

Julie

I am an Alien. I dont live on this planet I live on my own planet. Earth means nothing to me at the moment. I am an Alien who lives on Planet me. I sometimes wich I was with others on Earth and then they treat me like s**t so I then wonder why I ever thought that in the first place. It is easier and safer for me to live inside myself where no one can come, where no one can damagae or harm me.

I never felt like an alien. My whole family is like this, enough that anyone that isn't stands out as odd and unusual.

At school - I didn't feel it was all that important to fit in. The only school that I had major problems at was a government school - so I just thought it was because the school was full of stupid kids. I didn't want to fit in with them, but I would have been happier if they left me alone. Fortunately I found you could go to the library at lunch time. I think I read every book fiction and non fiction, they had about horses, at the time.

I never felt like an actual "alien"--except during my Star Trek years, when I identified closely with Spock--but I've always felt like an outsider, someone who just doesn't fit, or want to fit, into normal society.

I'm not sure if getting a diagnosis would help you; but it can be tremendously validating. Once you know what the problem is, you can solve that problem, or even learn to work with it (in the case of neutral and positive Aspie traits). The good thing about a diagnosis is that you can get formal, outside help rather than having to try things on your own.

It's really up to you whether you pursue a diagnosis or not; but if you try for a while to understand and work around/with your AS-like personality, then you'll either succeed (meaning you don't really need a formal diagnosis) or fail (meaning a diagnosis and the associated resources made available by it would be useful).

All in all, trying for a diagnosis can't hurt (other than having to pay for it); but it may not help, either. Your choice.

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