Uncomfortable conversations

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Beyond the 'standard' discomfort Aspies feel in conversation, has anyone here gotten involved in conversations about one's body that made other people extremely uncomfortable? Example:

I read that typically, Aspies are not comfortable with normal bodily functions in the first place, like girls getting their periods, or talking about it or any of the numerous other 'icky' things that the body is capable of producing, seemingly of its own volition.

I never used to be able to. I was mortified when I got my first one, and was too embarrassed to tell my mom even. She was hurt when she found out I told my grandmother and she of course blurted it out in my mom's presence *groan*

Anyway, I was talking to a friend on the phone the other night, who has 2 autistic sons. We were discussing things we'd always had difficulty with. I've learned over the years to get over my shyness when talking about the body. Nowadays I don't care how gross it is, the body does some weird stuff! And if it's affecting one's health, it doesn't pay to be squeamish, because that doesn't help reach a solution.

My hormone issues have really brought this to the fore. I mean seriously, I'll talk about anything, boils, acne, scars, those ugly thick dark hairs women always seem to get under their freakin CHIN (damn it), and no where else! She cracked up but it got me to thinking, am I really the only one who does this? Is this something that's typical of other Aspies? This matter-of-fact approach to things that other people find taboo or extremely discomfiting to talk about openly? What really is the shame in it?

Anyway, just wondering..

I have never had a problem with these sorts of things, cuz they are natural and I am interested in medical conditions. My Facebook profile pic is a photo of a huge bruise that used to be on my ass People don't really seem to care for that...

I don't get why people don't wanna talk about bodily stuff.

I think that is .... AWESOME!

haaaaahahahaha I think I need to see this! LOL

A quick dose of Ben Elton's comedy is a good antidote for squeamishness about body fluids - and now he's getting a bit older he's digging into the more embarrassing things that happen to people with ageing.

My family was usually pretty loathe to talk about that kind of thing......I still have some reluctance myself, but as long as the listener shows it doesn't bother them, I can usually overrride the parantal imperatives. But the moment anybody shows any discomfort, I'm very quick to clam up. It's often similar to talking about sex - some folks will just treat it like any other subject, others will look very threatened, and their embarrassment will quickly infect me.

Oh yeah? Ok, here it is!

http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=886215296

Damnnnnnnnnn, it almost looks like a nebula...

LOL! Yeah, it was the single greatest bruise I've ever given myself being clumsy. That time I fell down half a flight of stairs trying to take the vacuum back into the living room.

My greatest achievement in wounding myself however was breaking a pool cue in half with my stomach! That bruise was pretty good too.

LOL!! !! ! I love you posted it, soo brave.

I'm pretty freaked out at bodily functions. I find the human recycling machine very fascinating but at the same time it is all disgusting. Kind of a clean/germ freak. I have secret eating fears, like not wanting lots of different foods in my stomach at the same time (can't stand the image of it in my stomach). The whole process is disgusting. One thing I shouldn't have studied for sure. I didn't have these thoughts when I didn't know the process. My friends and family like to freak me out with their bumps and other. I'm on the other end of the scale and extra sensitive. I turn away from things that could be a special interest when I know it might just add to the list of things that freak me out. But I think it might be an aspie thing because lots of people on here aren't shy about that stuff...very clinical descriptions.

I'm always surprised how my dogs aren't very shy that they are naked all the time and just go wherever.

I like cool bruises lol. You're sooooooo brave-bold-bruise on your bum cheek

I seem to lack a "happy medium" in this area. On the one hand I can discuss human functions clinically without embarrassment--in fact I sometimes seem to shock doctors with my frank self appraisals. On the other hand I'm afraid to get close to people because I might smell them and that would be unbearable.

Well, thanks! I just don't care what people think, so I do what I want.

I dont have a problem with talking about bodily functions except for periods. I dont like mentioning that Im on my period, all I say is my back hurts or I have cramps and thats pretty sufficient. Otherwise, I can talk about all the bodily functions there are, everything disgusting, random, maybe sexual, whatever I dont give a crap. Periods seem to be a sensitive subject were practically conditioned not to talk about, likes its inappropriate. But if someone else brings it up, Im ok with talking, I wont be the one to bring it up.

I have an issue with NOT talking about my period. I'm always bringing it up and I know it's not appropriate. I just can't stop. Just today, for example, I told my co-worker I've really been craving chocolate lately. I wanted to add "Cuz it's that time of the month!" but stopped myself. I felt that my sentence was incomplete without the explanation

Wow, your bruise seems to beat my own, and I thought I got the biggest, the ugliest bruises there ever were
I absolutely have no trouble talking about bodily functions. Au contraire, I have a history of giving too much information about them. But then I am a biologist and I have spent too much time wiorking in ob/gyn clinics so people don't get exactly mortified. So am the favourite patient at the doctor's, they know I would always give reliable information.

I do remember though that when I first got my period, I didn't tell anybody for several months. I wasn't scared, I knew what was going on, I kne what to do, there weren't excessive pains or flows, so I assumed I could live my life normally. When I finally got to telling my mother it has already become a monthly routine and I didn't understamd why she got so emotional all of a sudden.

I'm pretty shure my landlord is going to feel uncomfortable in a few once i have a word with her.

*squeaks* Yikes! I didn't do it. Whatever it was, it wasn't me....