Don't like discussing injuries

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Is it an aspie thing to embarrassed of pain? Or is it related to another disorder?

I cover up all visible scars and injuries because I don't want people to see them and ask about what happened. Even if it isn't personal.

Also, when I am hurt, I don't cry or like to draw any attention to myself. Some people actually use pain to GET attention. I don't think I have cried over an injury since I was 11 or 12! I may cry over the embarrassment of getting hurt, but not the actual pain.

I remember once, it was June and I had an injury, and I wore pajamas with long pants so my mom wouldn't see it.

I'm even like this for injuries that are fairly common. Like falling off my bike. Even though that happens to most people who ride a bike, I was STILL embarrassed.

The reasons why I don't like people knowing about my injuries are:

-I feel uneasy if people are sympathetic when I am physically hurt (but not emotionally hurt)

-I'm worried that people will think I am less of person because I got an injury.

Is this normal, an aspie thing, part of another disorder, or just a quirk?

I also don't cry over physical pain.

I tend to downplay physical pain. People make too much of a fuss over injuries, and I hate having people make a fuss over me.

Not with injuries. Sometimes I show people them, not for attention because I like showing people wounds.
But I don't like crying or getting too angry around people.

I am on your boat Original Poster. I do not like the emotional NT response to getting hurt. All those questions, the reassuring words. I want them to fix it and be done. That is all I need.

Even when other people get hurt, If I know the person well, I will typically ask them what happened and if they are going be OK, but that's about it. I might ask them how they are in a couple of days, but nothing more. I wouldn't ask any questions to a stranger or to a person whom I knew, didn't like people asking them about their injuries.

Yeah, people pay enough attention to me as it is, and the last thing I need is for people to have an excuse to look at me weird. Besides, if I'm not hurt that bad, what's the big deal? If I'm on crutches, and I need help, then I'll ask for it.

I have been embarrassed of my injuries and typically pretend they're less severe than they are. I don't like to be seen as needing help and, even more so, I don't like the attention. I sometimes complain of it mildly (also in an understated way) when a pain is persistent, but then it's more of emotional exhaustion at the prolonged pain than it is the injury itself. And I don't cry from physical pain, though I came very close to it when I was hit by that truck.

I am not normally embarrassed by injuries, except when then happen in embarrassing way's

I will go to great lengths to avoid "Are you okay?"

However, I am having to learn to communicate about pain more freely. I've almost died several times due to an inability (not just unwillingness) to discuss or describe pain. Even as I try harder and harder to learn, another situation always comes up where I get into deep medical trouble because I was unable to communicate about it. Also it seems like discussing pain is a taboo among many nondisabled people (they assume it's not real or you just want attention or you're improper or something) and as someone with a number of severe pain conditions I feel like that taboo prevents people from understanding the reality of the life of people like me. So I do try to communicate about it more for that reason as well. One of my big things is being open about things that most people hide regarding disability, in order to make it more okay for more people to be open about it. It seems like often we're pressured into hiding things about ourselves, as if it's private, or dirty somehow, or just something people don't want to hear.

But about wanting to avoid the "are you okay" thing I totally completely understand and have also (when possible) gone to great lengths to avoid it. I say when possible because it often never occurs to me that a scar means people will ask about it. Even after it happens several times. But throughout my life I've nearly barked at people when they ask me questions like that and get all gooey sympathy all over me and YUCK it makes me physically shudder just thinking about it. So when I do talk about it I often make it clear that I'm not out for sympathy, I can't stand that kind of sympathy, I just want to be able to be open about it without it being a big deal. (Because when you live with severe pain every day of your life, it can seep into your personality, perceptions of the world, and many other aspects of a person. And I want to be able to be open about things that affect my life that drastically.)