Aspies and opening up - the aftermaths

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How do you feel when you open up to someone?

When I end up talking about myself, I feel so terrible afterwards. I feel exposed, I panic and want to desperately retract what I said. I become very anxious and agitated.

This happened last night, I had a very long conversation with my mother in law and ended up talking about my past, difficulties and even let slip the term Asperger's syndrome to her. I just don't know what happened. It was a good conversation overall, but why did I have to say so much? Now I feel on edge, haven't been able to sleep all night, the conversation just keeps replaying itself in my head and making my stomach churn.

Is this an Aspie thing or is it just me?

I get this too, but not really sure how to solve it, it even happens if it with someone who you are either supposed to tell or are close to.

I get a lot of crap for being too private.

This is why I don't say (much at all) other than what I need to, in the first place. I'm not advocating or saying that it's a good thing.
You can never take back something once you say it. Peoples perceptions of you are changed (sometimes forever).

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So, what is this relating thing you speak of?

This happens to me, too. Which is why I'm usually extremely secretive about personal issues. I just feel stupid whenever I talk about myself.

^ I feel very stupid right now. I guess sometimes I get an urge to explain myself when I feel judged or misunderstood. What starts with a vague (and safe?) explanation/defence is then also misunderstood... and the more I try to correct myself and set the record straight, the deeper I get into the subject... until I've gone much further than I'm comfortable with.

It's like war is my head. Trying to correct people's wrong perceptions of me, but not wanting them to know me either at the same time.

I made the mistake of telling a bunch of girls that I worked with a long time ago. I've even told them that I was not like Rain Man. All that they heard was Rain Man and I regretted telling them until I quit there.

It depends on who I tell.

With my mom and friends I usually feel embarrassed and wanna be mute for a while. With strangers, I could care less. They don't know me.